To get yourself into the right state of mind make a preface to your plan with quotes, stories, pictures, and statistics that inspire you, so that you will see them each time you open your plan.
Determine your search criteria. Write down what exactly you are looking for in the opposite sex. Make a list of 10 most important traits you are searching for in your life partner and pick three that are absolutely essential. Then make a list of ten shortcomings you don't want your boy-/girlfriend to have and select three that are absolutely unacceptable. Also try to think what you have to offer and how you would attract the person you have portrayed. Use this information as a draft. While dating, you will be modifying your lists based on your practical experience. Another useful exercise is to make a list of your partner's most desirable traits by imagining that you have married the person of your dreams and have lived with him/her a long and happy life. Look back and think, what has helped you to stay together through joys and sorrows, victories and failures? You might be surprised to come up with a list of traits that don't match the traits you are currently looking for in a life mate. Some physical parameters and even financial security requirements might seem less important if you re-evaluate them looking back ?from the future.?
The next step is to determine your marketing strategy. Figure out what dating resources you are going to use. Are you going to try dating agencies, blind dates set up by your friends, or will you work out your own dating tactic? Evaluate your costs, such as dating or matchmaking agency fees, Internet fees, purchase of books or magazines on dating or self-development and other relevant expenses.
Set monthly goals to yourself. Consider how many new people you will meet each month, how many new activities you will try, and how much entertaining you will do.
Set a schedule to accommodate activities that will improve your love life. Make out time on the calendar for at least one activity each day. It doesn't have to be time-consuming, but just get into the habit of daily love-life improvement.
Keep records of your progress. If you have single friends in similar situation, set up appointments with them so that you can support one another and help each other to network. Celebrate your achievements together.
Determine your final goal. Do you want to get married, start a relationship, or just find a date? Set an approximate deadline. The more detailed plan you will design, the more chances you have to succeed.
A dating plan with a list of concrete actions is one of the keys to reach your goal. It gives you the guidelines and determination to make the first steps, gradually moving closer to the final point.