Women are guided by their emotions. A woman would dream about marrying a cute co-worker, spending all night deciding how to name their kids, when the poor guy doesn't even know her name. She would wake up her best friend in the middle of the night to discuss how the first date went and would spend three hours crying with that same friend over a breakup. Women are always ready for love and are looking for a suitable object, although they know that men can be a trouble.
Men are pain and sorrows, fight and anxiety. They can only talk about sports, they don't share their feelings, they are clumsy and awkward on a first date and even more so on the following dates. Men can be the cause of the most unpleasant experience in a woman's life.
On the other hand, men can be fun. They can be hot, tender, caring, and irresistible. They will protect you. They will try to make you happy and will cheer you up when you are upset. The presence of a man in your life can be the most fulfilling experience.
Men can raise us to the heights of new emotions, breathe passion into our life, and at the same time they can leave their socks all over the place.
Men can make us feel a very special person, someone who is loved, appreciated, and worshiped, and then they can say something so stupid that you realize that all your relationship has been a complete waste of time.
But women keep dating, keep searching for love, and keep hoping.
Women tend to romanticize a lot about the perfect man. Quite often it takes women a few years and several broken heart dramas to really figure out what they are looking for in a guy. What is important for young girls in terms of a relationship changes as we grow up and mature, so usually the ideal man for a middle-aged women bears very little resemblance to what we thought we really wanted in high school.
With that in mind, it's important for every woman to seriously consider what she values and how that matches up with her idea of the perfect life mate.
When creating your recipe for the man of your life, ask yourself these questions:
1. What are the key qualities I value in a man?
2. What kind of personality am I attracted towards?
3. What will I absolutely not tolerate in his behavior or attitude?
4. What are my hobbies? Do they match with his hobbies?
5. Is this man my emotional, social and intellectual equal?
6. Does this person share my spirituality?
7. What kind of emotional baggage does each of us bring to the relationship?
8. What are my weaknesses and what qualities do I need in a guy to balance those out?
This list could go on and on, but you get the point.
We want a life partner to share our values, hobbies, and interests. We want someone who possesses key qualities we admire. We want our soul mate to accept us and love us for who we really are and to treat us with respect. Now that doesn't seem like such a mystery after all, does it?