A happy beginning, isn't it? That is right only for pessimists. A person who is always lively and dynamic will never lose self-confidence. After another failed attempt he will go on trying yet again. His second half is also waiting for him somewhere, and he will find her - it just can't be otherwise.
By the way, do you know why people want to get married, why they are looking for their significant other? Legends say that in ancient times there were no men and women. There was instead a creature that combined in itself both. That creature was very happy until it provoked the Gods? wrath. God divided it into two parts as a punishment. Ever since appeared men and women. The two divided halves of the poor creature. That ancient creature needed no one but himself, he was all-sufficient. But the men and women lacked each other, so they are searching for their second half, trying to unite, either succeeding or not.
This is a legend. But let's return to modern life. A family is considered to be a cell of society. To create a family you have to get married. But many young couples don't get married. They live together, have children, and are happy.
So what is marriage? Just a stamp in your passport? Or does it really significant for two people living together? The common view on this question is that this stamp ties the two together and doesn't let them depart. When knowing that you will have to stand all the formalities of a divorce, you will think twice before giving way to anger and quarrel with you beloved. When you are not married, you simply say ?good bye? and part. But the stamp holds you, forces to tame your anger, and some times to cede even if you think your partner id not right. On the other hand, you will try to avoid such situations, that is, take things more easy, do not make a mountain out of a molehill.
How to decide what is better? It is up to you. Only you yourself can make a decision. No advice will help. If you ruin your relations taking a suggestion, you will rather want to kill the person who gave it to you. If this happens because you didn't take the advice, you will sprinkle ashes upon you own head.
People are always happy to shift their problems to somebody else. So, not to blame anybody but yourself, take your own decisions.
Well, let's leave the sad side of the matter and move further on to your wedding. You are in love and you have decided to seal you union with marriage.
So, the wedding is at hand. And here you can give free rain to your imagination. If you are not on a tight budget, why not complete your fantasy with a cruise wedding or a Las Vegas wedding and after the ceremony stay in the Camelot Room at Viva Las Vegas Hotel? King Arthur himself would feel honored to spend the knight in this medieval castle boudoir. And you will enjoy sleeping on a drawbridge bed over a hand-painted moat, protected by a knight in shining armor on horseback. Surrounded by castle walls and turrets, a fire-breathing dragon and all the things legends are made of, you will undoubtedly dream of noble adventure and romance. Since a man's home is his castle, the room is outfitted with all the comforts modern kings would expect. (You will find the television hidden away in a life-sized three dimensional tree trunk).
Or maybe you will prefer an outdoor wedding somewhere on the beach or in a rose garden?
You can have either a civil or a church wedding ceremony. If you decide on a church ceremony, it is up to you to choose the traditions, according which the wedding will be arranged.
You do not want to go over budget? Decide on a civil ceremony instead of a marriage service. Civil ceremonies are much cheaper (your budget is the main, yet not the most pleasant thing in wedding planning; unless you are Bill Gates, of course). A civil ceremony is also much more flexible, though a church wedding may be important to you if religion forms a meaningful part of your life. But in a civil ceremony you both may incorporate aspects of each of your religions if you wish, write your own vows and have any type of wedding theme you want, whereas a typical religious ceremony tends to restrict much of this.
Whatever type of ceremony you choose, the most important thing to remember is what makes you happy as a couple. It's your wedding after all.