Flirting is a game. Watch kids as they are playing together. They are just having fun without pursuing any goals. They set their creative spirit free by reversing their roles. Their games might seem foolish, but they don't care. Unfortunately, while getting older we tend to lose this natural feeling of being happy for no special reason and ease in communication with others.
The first phase of seduction game is getting your mind ready. You always need to analyse what is holding you back. If there is a past rejection stopping you, you must get over it. You must get your mind clear, focus on your past victories, rather than failures, and get yourself into a peak performance state. No matter if it is on a coffee date, or whether you are going to say hi, or you are going for the first kiss, there will be a battle between yourself and your own frame of mind.
The next phase you have to work on is becoming more approachable. The first thing to learn is to establish eye contact. People will not approach you if they don't see your eyes. Averting one's eyes or looking down is a defensive posture and tells people not to come close.
If you have found someone you like in a crowd, look him/her into the eye. Combine short glances with looking away. Wink at him/her. Winking creates a very short intimate connection between two people. You can wink at someone from across the room, or wink at someone during a conversation. If they say something funny, or someone else does something silly, you can give a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you, as if the two of you are in on some conspiracy no one else is aware of.
Don't forget to smile. A smile should not be a sarcastic grin. A pleasant genuine smile in coordination with eye contact will get you a long way.
Check your body language and posture. By slumping shoulders and crossing arms and legs you shut yourself off from the world. Another "leave me alone" signal is turning your back or shoulders away. Turn around and face the center of the room. Sit comfortably with your back straight and your arms unfolded. This posture signals your "openness" to others.
If you're sitting on a couch, don't sit close to the edge (declaring your detachment). Don't sit directly in the middle either (marking your ownership of the seat). Sit slightly to the side with room on either side of you for someone else. This is a universal sign that you don't mind being approached.
One good method to use is to imagine someone you admire coming in. Think of your favorite movie star entering a party alone. They exude confidence, class and comfort. This should be a model to follow. If you're not sure how to act, stand or sit - imagine what they would do in a similar situation.
When you strike a conversation whisper to him/her and lean into his/her space. Whispering is a very powerful tool. By speaking in a low voice you make the other person pay more attention to what you are saying. By whispering you create a little world just for the two of you. The other person will have no choice but move closer to hear you better.
You can use these moves anywhere, even if you are just talking about the weather. Practice makes perfect. Don't miss a chance to polish your skills at every occasion and soon you will be flirting like a pro.