Save marriage advice

You feel your marriage is on rocks, it has become a test of quite desperation. You need marriage advice and marriage help. Yes, these are the issues that drive married couples into a deep pit of loneliness, resentment, fear, bitterness, anger, apathy (a lack of feeling or emotion), loss of love and then divorce. You are not satisfied with this answer. It just provokes the question:? Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels?? It's not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours- but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating the following save marriage advice into your marriage life.
1. Fall in love all over again. Make a conscious decision to be in love. The more you act as if you are in love, the more you will feel like you are.


2. Remember the good times. Treat your partner like you did at the beginning of your relationship. Make a list of all the things you used to enjoy doing together, and add any new fantasies to the list. Plan for them and make them happen.


3. Help your partner feel more loved and secure in your love, so that he or she can open up to you and express feelings and ideas without fear of being attacked or judged. Compliment, praise, give a hug. Small gestures make the grandest statements.


4. Don't make unilateral decisions. You're a team in many ways, so act like one. Check in and make decisions together about things large and small. Be willing to compromise.


5. Be present. Train your mind to stay in the moment - not at work, thinking about the new color you want to paint your kitchen, or how it's time to take the dog to the vet.


6. Pay attention to your physical appearance. Take the time to stay in shape and look good for each other. It does matter.


7. Boost your compatibility. Couples in crisis focus on all the ways they are different, whereas those who are in love zero in on their similarities and think their differences are cute. Build compatibility by taking turns planning activities to do together. If you don't like your partner's choice, don't complain; it's your turn next.


8. Do not place blame. Replace blame and criticism with solutions and tenderness. Problem-solve together - sit close, hold hands, touch each other's face or hair. Be playful. When was the last time you laughed together? Rent a comedy movie to tickle your funny bone.


9. Plan for sex. Spontaneity is great, but smart couples know that good sex doesn't just happen. Like everything else, it takes time and planning.


10. Fact-find - don't mind-read. You may think you know, but you can't assume. You may believe he should know, but that's not fair, either. Always clear up misinterpretations and misunderstandings to make sure they don't throw you both off course.


11. Fight fair - and by appointment only. Schedule a limited time to discuss a problem and confine your comments to that issue only. It's easier to relax and feel free to enjoy each other, when you know you won't be ambushed by a litany of complaints and criticisms.


12. Prepare for checkouts. Even in the closest marriage, everyone needs time alone. Don't take it personally and don't make each other feel guilty if you need to spiritually and emotionally regroup. Just be sure to tell each other when you are checking out (max, one day) - and when you're checking back in.


Try to bring into your life at least two pieces of marriage advice stated above. What if it is the exact marriage help you were asking for?

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