1. Lack of support
Matchmaking is a serious venture and it's hard to run it on your own without proper support. You can get encouragement from your family or friends who will provide you with emotional help. You are bound to go through some difficult moments and without a shoulder to cry on you might easily give up your plans. 

2. Lack of Resources
Resources mean both financial means and sources for a date search. Some women tend to invest too much in dating. This tactic should be avoided. If you find that lack of finances stops you from dating, look for cheaper ways to meet an eligible man. You can meet a man anywhere ? jogging in a park, browsing through magazines in a bookstore, or working out in a gym. You don't have to frequent expensive places to find a date.  

3. Rejection Fear
Your ability to handle rejection is the key to play a dating game until you find your life mate. When you go on a date don't focus on the results. Try to enjoy every moment of your life and believe in success. Recall the situations when you felt successful and everything seemed to go right without effort. Try to cultivate this feeling. It takes some practice, but then you will learn to get into this state of mind and become confident.

4. Unwillingness to Take Initiative
Some women are scared to make the first step. They think men are responsible for taking initiative in dating and it's inappropriate for a woman to ask a man out or start a conversation with a stranger. If you have the same attitude and are still alone, you might realize that this tactic doesn't work. You have no choice but to overcome your fears and become more approachable.

5. Fear to Get Hurt
You might have suffered from a bad breakout. Maybe men didn't not treat you well before. You might have been unhappily married one or twice. Your pain may be so strong that you don't feel like getting out of the house, let alone flirting or dating. Don't reject your pain, but don't let it take over. For some people it's better to take some time off after a breakup and recover. Some find dating a good distraction. It's up to you to listen to yourself and decide what is better. But don't think that your life is over after a breakup. It's up to you ? you might choose to get depressed forever or get out and start a new life.

6. Lack of Determination to Follow the Plan 
Some women can't get themselves organized and even after they have developed a detailed plan of actions they have problems following it. Splashes of activity interchange with periods of inertness. If you don't have enough energy to stick to the plan, you might try making some amendments. If you can't make six phone calls daily, make just one. If it's hard for you to go out twice a week change it to once a week. Accommodate your plan to your style of life. Make small steps as long as you make them on a regular basis.

7. Unrealistically High Selection Criteria
By setting your expectations too high you create barriers between yourself and eligible men. The cost of your high standards is your loneliness. Your high expectations scare off men forcing them take a defensive position. Keep revising your list of most important qualities you are looking for, separating vitally important from those you can probably do without.

8. Lack of Self-confidence 
Visualize your success and believe in it. Make a list of things you have achieved in life and keep it handy. Read it when you feel upset. Ask your friends and relatives for support. Take yoga classes and learn to meditate. It helps to relax and get a clear view of the problem. Find a role model ? someone who is confident, who sets goals and achieves what she wants. Mingling with successful people will make you believe that everything is possible as long as you have faith in it.