Miranda, a successful engineer from Canada, met a handsome Frenchman at a scientific conference. It was love at first sight. They spent wonderful time together, then Paul had to go back to Europe, but they kept in touch. They called each other daily and exchanged endless email messages back and forth. Miranda went to visit her boyfriend in Paris and felt the happiest woman in the world for a couple of months. However, it did not take her long to realize that this type of relationship will never lead to anything serious. She is a 45-year-old single mother who has to take care of two teenagers and a mortgage. What she needs is a boyfriend living within a driving distance and willing to help her have her newly bought house renovated, rather than a 40-year-old bachelor who is just looking for excitement and romance and enjoys a commitment-free life. She would never be able to move to Europe as she has invested many years to build a successful career in Canada. She is not ready to assume responsibility for Paul's move to Canada either, as immigration is too much of a challenge.
Besides, Miranda does not plan to have any more kids, and he might want some, as he doesn't have any of his own. Therefore, even though this relationship started as a fairy tale, there was no chance to make it work. These two people did not have much in common, were on different pages in their life and needed different things from a relationship.
Wayne had been with his girlfriend for a year. Now, his friends could not recognize an easygoing guy he used to be in this pathetic and insecure person. Some sympathized with him, saying, ?It's Martha's fault.? Others felt nothing but contempt and said that he should have broken up with his girlfriend as she had made his life miserable. Wayne did not share his friends' opinion.
He called his pals cynics and said they had no idea what true love was. Martha was a beauty with an intolerable temper. No one could predict her mood. Her favorite pastime was to confuse her boyfriend. This relationship, like a swing, had been flying Wayne from heavenly harmony to infernal despair. In a year's time Martha started talking about moving in with Wayne. For five days he was in a state of euphoria. On the sixth day the euphoria gave way to doubts. On the seventh day Wayne broke up with Martha. Now Wayne is seeing another girl. He exudes calm and confidence. He regained his peace of mind and his life went back on track. So, if all your friends are saying that you have turned into a needy anxious victim since you have met the person you call the love of our life, think twice. Your friends might be right.
John and Irene seemed a perfect couple. Both were handsome, classy, ambitious, and charismatic young professionals who had so much in common. Ironically, the ambitiousness played a malicious trick on them. The relationship turned into a non-stop competition. Each of them tried to steal the show wherever they appeared together. They both liked to be the center of attention and were unable to share each other's success. There was no winner in this game. Their personalities turned out to be too strong to coexist. Now John is seeing a woman who seems plain and quiet to the others, but is a wonderful background for his enchanting personality.
There are thousands reasons why sometimes love and chemistry don't seem to be enough to keep two people together. We all learn from mistakes and being wise and mature means being able to understand what is not working at an early stage before your relationship turns into a drama or your love becomes an addiction to pain.