Don't want to share one apartment with men the women of creative profession who like to be left alone while working, or just the ladies who need their private territory and can't stand one more toothbrush in their bathroom.
The ages of expecting a man make a proposal have taught a woman to be very patient. She want him to marry her but if he's not ready ? she can wait, and she can do it without a word for years while he's getting ready. But the men have no such experience. So when a man has decided to ask a woman to become his wife the last thing he's expecting to hear is ?no?. They don't understand how could that be and very often take that ?no? as ?I don't love you?, and as a signal to leave.
Sometimes men ask those busy women to marry them in order to get their ladies more attached to them, to get some control over the relationships, to get more of their women. Maybe he sees their relationships as a row of dates which are much obliging and never regular. So if a girl isn't ready to move into his apartment in a status of a wife she should try to make him feel more comfortable in what their relationships are by avoiding some mistakes.
What are those wrong things that the women do so that the men decide get married on them?
She has a sudden hour out, she bursts into his place, he's isn't prepared for a date but still glad to see her, really glad so this all leads to some exciting sex. After it she gets up and goes. It happens frequently and he starts to feel himself used on only purpose. Yes, new century switches the roles of men and women even more often when it seems.
Next time she should let him know that she's escaped only for an hour. Let him choose what he wants the most at the moment: to discuss one of his genius ideas, to let her check out the new stuff of any kind his has purchased, to tell her how his work's going or even to ask about hers. Or to have sex.
The other thing the women do wrong about their men is just quite opposite to this one. They cancel or delay the dates on some indefinite terms. He can stand her always being late but gets really displeased when she doesn't come at all (of course after have told him about it). Well those sudden changes in our fixed schedule freak out as all. But what can be done about it? Making a career or just making money is a very important part of a modern woman's life. Probably the same as relationships. But it's not the reason to give up one's private life at all.
The salvation is quite obvious ? a girl should find some certain time for her man. Probably not very much but certain. This doesn't mean that all dates will become something of a kind with the regular visits to a cosmetologist or the seances at the swimming pool. But canceling one more date a girl will be able to calm her man down but saying: it didn't work out this time but you know the Friday/Sunday/Wednesday is still our day.
Another mistake is the one that women have been making since the first days of the world ? they?ve been talking too much. Maybe a man would be happy to listen forever about himself but women do chatter about their own job, chef, friends, mothers, problems, their friends? problems, their friends? friends, about things they?ve seen, places they?ve been, people they?ve meet and etc. A girl may really be like a bird with the bright feathers, and her life can be filled with the fantastic events and interesting people. But when such a bird flies away a man may feel himself only a very small and miserable part of that life. And when he asks such a girl to marry him he only wants to declare his serous rights on her and her life. If she doesn't want him to declare his rights in such a way she should declare her presence in his life in order not to make him feel lonely neither when they?re together nor when they apart.
From time to time they should talk about his life and she should show her sincere interest. And all short ?how do you do? phone-calls, sms, e-mails of couple of lines will do to show that ?she's there for him? when they are apart.
And if after all that is done and the relationships is perfect and comfortable for the both but he still asks her to marry him ? well maybe this time he doesn't want her in his kitchen and his bed for certain seven days a week, maybe this time he really thinks that she's the one. And if she's the one for him he will respect her being not ready for the marriage and won't let go easily. And she probably may start looking at the question of marriage in a little bit different way.