Suppose you go out once a week. Where shall you go? Most likely, go to some club. So, make some calculations then. A month entry fee will be 30 to 40 dollars. Another $32 will go on drinks and tips. You have ended up with some 60 to 70 dollars per month. Why not spend that money on dating with someone from the web personals? At least in this case you know who you are meeting with and what to expect from that person.
Dating is of course an enjoyable experience. But it is preceded by some search work. You can make you search specific or general. Just keep in mind that the more specific you make your search, the fewer profiles will appear on your desktop when the search is complete. It can even be said that you are the creator of the man/woman you are going to meet. Why? Because you choose all the options, starting with the appearance (height, weight, body type, color of eyes and hair, etc.) and ending with the persons life stile. It is also recommended to scroll through the profiles that are recently updated (take an extra look at when the photo was last updated).
You can search for profiles within several miles of your postcode, you can search by country, city and state as well. You can even choose more than one state but then you can't pick specific cities in those states.
There is one thing that can help you save time. Go through the profiles that have a photo. That removes a lot of guesswork and speeds up the process of meeting someone. You can, of course, request a picture, but it is ten to one that you will be asked to wait a bit. If you ask for the photo too often (in your interlocutor's opinion) you might be labeled a bore. When a picture is included you can see to whom it is you are writing and feel much more comfortable about it.
But! Caution! You might walk into a trap. There is such a category of pictures that is called "glamour shots". These pictures aren't ordinary pictures. People are dressed up, wear their makeup and evening gowns and some special-occasion jewelry (only women of course). These pictures are heavily airbrushed. A flawless picture should alarm you. No matter how pretty or handsome a person is, she/he can't be super-perfect. That is the word for "glamour shots" ? super-perfect. It goes without saying you will be greatly impressed by the person in the picture. But think that over. Will a person go out that equipped (we are not speaking of the so called cream of the society). What you may see during the first date might leave you in clear disappointment. Be careful not to step into that "mine".
Do not rush to e-mail people without having a closer look at their profile. The picture, username and headline are only a starting point. Read the profile thoughtfully. Answer in such a way so that the recipient sees that you really read his/her profile thoroughly and not just provided a pre-fabricated response. Are you a good match for that person? Does he/she fit your expectations of an ideal (or a least good) match? The person might be seeking for someone with certain qualities and traits, that is, someone of certain height, religion, ethnicity, or have some preferences regarding children. Be sure you both fit the match. You do not want to waist time on something tat would most likely not work. If someone sounds interesting and you qualify ? good luck!
Yes, one more thing! It may so happen that you did not get a response to you e-mail. If you do not hear back within a week, you could send a follow-up letter. If that is not answered either, you may conclude that the person is not interested Do not bombard the person with e-mails. It will not make you more appealing. And worse, you will get a response, but not the one you have been awaiting. In fact, it may just consist of three words.