Women tend to invest more emotions into a relationship than an average guy does. Therefore, establishing trust is a key issue. Add a touch of maturity to your bahavior rather than faking a 'come-on' type personality.
The topic of conversation should always be focused on drawing her interests out instead of moving around your own. But don't go overboard by playing an investigator and don't fire her with questions. Share a little, but don't fill in all the gaps ? intrigue her, let her guess. Disguise your own ego for the first couple of dates. The best seduction tactic is to reveal yourself slowly, as a striptease dancer, as you gradually get to know her. It makes everything that's still to follow much more enchanting for her. Don't worry. You will have a chance to do a self-presentation. When you finally hook her she'll come up with a list of questions.
In order to make any date exciting and memorable, focus on activities in the present moment. Take her to a place she has never been to. Surprise her. Bring her flowers. Admire a breathtaking view together or take a walk and look at the stars. Do something that will make you stand out. Romance is a fantasy journey, an escape from the daily routine. Make the first date exclusive, unrepeatable and potentially unforgettable.
It's a common mistake to get caught up in the "talking trap" on a date - where the two of you get drowned in a deep conversation. In no time you will find yourself spilling the beans about mumps you had at the age of 10 or what a bitch you ex was. Before your know it, the conversation will be out of control. To prevent this stay active on a date, so that you are creating a memory with her rather than sharing one.
After some initial awkwardness due to understandable jitters, you should be able to calm down. If you have a real problem controlling automatic body reactions to anxiety (sweating, stuttering, facial twitching, etc.) get a book on yoga and practice it. Learn some deep breathing and relaxation exercises. They really work and can give you the self-control you might need.
Learn to always keep your movements around the women you're trying to seduce, poised and thoughtful like a snake charmer. Practice a throaty style of your voice and keep the tone of your words sounding a little bit mysterious. But be self-aware and don't overdo it.
Even if you are obsessed with her, don't show it ... just be interested. Declaring ridiculous nonsense like "You're the girl I've been searching for my whole life..." on a first or second date is totally unacceptable. Pretend you've been down the dating road a few times already.
Visualize success. Simply assume that any woman you're dating will always like you - and do whatever it takes to drum this idea into your unconscious mind. If can't convince yourself you won't be able to convince anyone. Your attitude is a neon sign of your unconscious beliefs about yourself. Control the self-image that you project to the world by pushing the self-consciousness out of your brain. Replace it with positive motivation and power, and watch your world, like a mirror, reflect positive change before your eyes like magic.