In a happy marriage none of partners feel upset, isolated or alone, even if one of them has to work long hours. They manage to find enough time to spend together, and to pay attention to each other needs.
To forge a happy and lasting marriage we should know the six underlying principles that govern marriage relationships:
1. Communicate effectively, be interested in your second half problems, interests, hobbies and wishes.
2. Have an ability to get over problem situations together, be a support to your wife/husband.
3. Try to comprehend and to feel what it is like to be connected emotionally and physically.
4. Trust in each other.
5. Give each other the attention you both deserve.
6. Understand each other.
The majority of us believe that we know absolutely everything about our partners, their feelings and dreams. Actually, we substitute his/her inner life with our idea about it. The following psychological games will help you to establish happy marriage relationships.
? Theatre of two actors. Describe each other an ideal partner from your point of view, his/her manners, behavior, and attitude to you. Play the roles of the ideal partners. This game will help you correct your behavior, words, and conversation tone.
? Propose your wish and the partner will try to guess it. Words are forbidden in this game. For example: ?Open the fridge and bring me some juice.? Mimicry will help you guess and perform the wish. Then change your roles. It is a good test for partnership. Those who understand each other, will cooperate with this task very quickly.
? See how much you rely on each other. Make the following exercise. Your partner stands behind your back, the distance between you is 1.5 meter, your eyes are closed, try to fall into your partner's arms. His task is simple: he has to catch you. Yours is more complicated. Try not to be afraid to fall into his arms with your eyes closed. There are only some people who manage to do it for the first time.
? Happy marriage magic school. Unfortunately, we do not receive compliments and hear pleasing, warm, and lovely words every day. Meanwhile, every person needs to know that she/he is dear, the best and the only one. Make up for it. Take a shit of paper, a pen and both of you finish 10 times the phrase: ?I appreciate your ??or ?I am proud of your??. Exchange your notes. You have put down the features that are most important for you. Save these notes and read them when you have a doubt about your or the partner's love. This game helps to overcome constraints in the marriage relations.
? Be inventors. Let your imagination and humor work and invent your own games, which will become your happy marriage life traditions. For example, family wrestling with some specific rules or without them. These games will reinforce your marriage relations. It is observed that partners who like to fool are easy-goers and are more flexible, open-minded, than very serious ones, who think jokes are not for marriage life and childhood has already finished.
Good luck to you! Have a happy marriage!