Sometimes a bad date is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You are depressed. You have been on the dating scene for a while and are still single. You have lost all faith in the possibility of ever finding your soul mate. You are tired of endless dates that only result in frustration and self-doubt. Such negative attitude will never bring you a success. You are subconsciously ready for a failure, and when the date goes wrong you are sarcastically saying to yourself, ?That's exactly what I expected.?
If you look stressed up and ill at ease, no makeup or expensive clothes will hide your anxiety. The first thing people notice when they meet you is your smile. If you have not mastered the art of smiling you will never be able to charm your date, no matter how beautiful and fit your are. Practice a genuine open smile in the mirror. Remember that it's not just you lips that have to smile. The smile should be in your eyes.
Some people are so obsessed with reasons why they fail to attract the opposite sex, that they don't pay any attention to their dates. They think they are wasting their time on a date because there is no person in the world who will be attracted to them, as they are too old and overweight, because their ex dumped them or for any other reason they chose to get into their head. They don't even bother to give the other person a chance to get to know them.
Such behavior is understandable from a psychological point of view. We can't help but take a certain amount of risk when we leave our comfort zone to try something new and our sub-consciousness resists to changes by prompting us the worst possible scenario. It exaggerates your every flaw and reminds you of the pain you might feel if you don't give up your intention. Thank your sub-consciousness for warning, but don't let your inferiority complex get over you. Analyze each of your concerns and be indulgent to yourself. Look around and see how many people with the same flaws have successful relationships and are not afraid to live their lives to the fullest.
Instead of worrying about how you look and what impression you are making, try to ensure your date feels comfortable. Listen to what your date is saying and ask questions, rather than just focusing on your own answers.
Keep the conversation light and positive. Don't touch heavy or negative topics. It's not romantic. Don't talk about terrorism or what a jerk your boss is. Don't recount every detail of your last painful breakup. Lay off the heavy subjects.
Men, don't talk of sex on a first date. You're not going to drop hints in an attempt to signal to her that you're the hottest guy in the neighborhood. No. You're going to remain cool and classy. When you talk about sex on a first date, you attack her comfort level and why would you want to do that?
Women, even if you plan to get married by Christmas there is no need to mention it on a first date. Save it for later. Take your time and hold your horses.
Don't take dating, especially when you are going on a first date, too serious. Play the game rather than being obsessed with the result. Enjoy the road and forget about the destination for a while, and you will get there.