May be, there is a code of rules ONLY FOR MEN, which they read and follow on for choosing the future wife?
It is well known that men very often get marry not the girl they want and love, but another one. What are the motives of such behavior? Why meeting or living with one girl for a long time, they, at last, marry another one? Let us try to find and appreciate those motives.
Mike and Kristi knew each other all their lives. They studied at one school, were neighbours, every Birthday they congratulated each other. They were very different - she was bright, mere, and thoroughly alive, while he was calm, handsome, and even-minded.
Such difference in their characters allowed them to be always interesting to each other, because one harmonically complemented another. Their parents and they thought that the future marriage is clear. However, some day he left her and married the girl he had met at one of her Birthday parties. What was the reason? Tempers ? he understood that he will not be able to hear this chirrupy voice and feel this constantly somewhere moving figure for the whole life. He understood that calmness, quietness, and silence are the features of his future. Now Mike is an embodiment of heartsease and dependability.
Leon and Teresa met in college. It happened so that soon they became very good friends, and then ? it is not strange ? fell in love. During vacation they decided to visit each other's parents to introduce their future wife (husband). Teresa agreed that firstly she must meet Leon's parents. She lived in their house for three days and was excited with Leon's mother who wanted to know everything about her. The vacation was over, the young couple returned to their college, but day by day Teresa realized that something changed in Leon. He did not want to spend all his spare time with her, he started lying, and hid eyes. Soon, they parted. What was the Leon's motive to leave Teresa although he loved her? Money. Teresa was a fortuneless young girl - Leon's mother dug out this fact, and Leon's father told it to son and explained him what would the minuses of this circumstance be like.
Another story. Paul and Oddi have been living together for three years, and even intended to have a baby. In December he celebrated his Birthday and in 3 months he married. His wife name was Mary and she was a mother of Oddi's nearest friend. The relatives were in perplexity, but Paul explained that Mary understood him, could reveal to him the meanings of nearly all events that took place in life, shared his interestes and world outlook. Of course, he loved Oddi, but at some moment he realized that with Oddi his life will be a way between boutiques, restaurants, hairdresser's saloons, cats, and disco ? and something changed in his feeling and mind.
Men frequently do not marry for love ? among the reasons are ? financial welfare, nationality, social disparity, difference in values and lifestyle, and so on; some men do not like powerful women; one tells that he married the women who chose him, and so on.
However, there is one pleasant moment in our discussion. Unions of hearts exist and love match also happens.