Coming from a family who couldnt afford anything. I have unintentionally overcompensated my own children by giving them whatever I can Whenever I can. Now, they are SPOILED (something I just realized!) My hubby and I have recently come upon hard times and the kids are feeling it. Now no more fancy snacks for school, No friday night movies or trips to visit family then next town over. Once we get back on our feet...I promised myself I am going to change the nasty habit of giving too much....

So if you grew up in a similar circumstance. Please remember Moderation is key... hahaha.

Hi my name is sam im a 22 year old single mother of 2 children, I have a 2 year old daughter and a 9 month old son and in my opinion there is no easy way to disapline children, my daughter chucks tantrums all the time and i couldnt stop her because she didnt listen to me, I did everything my mum suggested and still she ignored me, But in the end i found a way to get her to stop when she was doing something wrong and i knew she was gonna chuck a hissy fit i sent her to her room and gave her a time out for 5 mins where she wasnt allowed to touch anything or watch anything and if she did her time out went for longer, after 10 mins she stopped and calmed down now she hardly chucks tanturams bcoz she hates it when i ignore her. but every child is different so u have to be patient and figure it out, as a parent u learn something new abt ur child everyday so u just have to find out what your child likes and doesnt like. but thats just my opinion

Being an extrovert myself i had no concept of an introvert. I thaught quite children were maybey lacking in confidence. It was when reading this passage that i realised that introversoin and extroversion were just personality traits. What i do know is that a child needs to know that his parents accept him for who he is (good and bad bits). Acceptance doesnt mean you have to like it. Otherwise the child will grow up to not accept that part of himself and be ashamed of it, there for being untrue to himself and being unhappy.

My moto is accept me for who i am, if you dont, your probably not worth knowing anyway.

An example of this situation is. If a parent is totaly against gays and lets there child know this, not knowing if thair child was gay or not, the child will grow to hide this part of them selves in fear of not being accepted, and not accepting it themselves which would cause them to maybe be in denial and very deppressed. This is common. This is at the top end of the scale just to give you an idea of what my point is. It could be anything that would have an inpact on the childs life.

An introvert is a person who is quite, thaughtful and enjoys solitude and privercy. It is not the same thing as being shy and is in no sense abnormal. A person who is introverted is more interested in ideas and inner things than in out side events and people. An extrovert, on the other hand is a child who likes the company of other children, is happy to express him self openly and is at ease in a group. Introverts are more prone to remaine in the margains and to be come aloof which means distant and may have or show exsessive pride or arrogance. They may need alittle more help to share and to join in with group acctivities.

Extroverts are more at ease with other people and find it easyer to join in and to be a part of what is going on around them. Introversion and extroversion are not in any sense abnormal and sometimes as parents we may feal under pressure by other parents or proffesionals to change our child who is and introvert to become more out going and extroverted. If your child is generally happy within himself let him be so. In other words if it's not brocken don't fix it.

(The confident child by Reamonn oDonnchadha)