Every day countless children, ranging in age from newborns to teenagers, find themselves in a situation where their birth parents are not able to care for them. The reasons for this are often neglect due to drug problems or other issues in which the parents is not able to provide a safe home to the child. Most often, the children who are taken away from their parents are confused, sad and angered. Those who decide to take in a foster care kid must understand that all children, no matter what their age, are in need of love, kindness, understanding, empathy and caring.
The state agencies that determine is a parent is not able to care for their children any longer will usually try very had to keep siblings together. This element is a very crucial one. Children, who are losing the only home that they have ever known, even if that home was a neglectful one, are often traumatized from being removed; being able to stay together with their brothers or sisters can be a tremendous help to keep a bond of family intact. If you are able to foster more than one child, do please consider taking care of siblings. Most often, the older sibling will feel a great deal of responsibility to care for younger ones; you can help maintain those feelings by keeping the children together.
Taking care of a foster care kid does not carry the stereotype that is sometimes given to it; if you are a foster care parent you will not necessarily be taking care of out-of-control, tantrum ridden children. Yes, it is true that the children brought into foster care are in need of extra love, they may be in need of rules that they are not used to and they may need some time to adjust to living in a home that is peaceful, kind and loving; however this does not mean that they are “troubled” children or will always be getting into trouble.
The way in which a child was brought up is of no fault of their own. Children are brought into this world as innocent beings. They have no say and no control over the circumstances of the house in which they are raised. When they are neglected, mistreated, malnourished and/or witness utterly terrible role modeling, they have no choice. Many times a child in a neglectful home will see many things that no one should see. A foster care kid may see domestic violence, drug use and other situations. They have no one there to tell them that the way of life they are seeing is wrong. It is only when agencies step in, that a child will slowly begin to process the information that their own parents behaved extremely inappropriate. Children such as this need someone to take the time to listen, have patience to show them the correct way of living, and for someone to believe in them.
A foster care kid can grow into a loving, responsible adult that would make any family proud. Those who foster often decide to adopt the child that they are taking care of. No matter what the age of this child, being taken into a loving and safe home can make all the difference in the world.