As a guy, I can say that's it's a wonderful feeling being intimate with a woman. The touching, the caressing, the sexual intimacy - it's a wonderful thing. The purpose of this article is to discuss the role of oral sex and it's importance for guys. There are two factors we'll look at: A womans enthusiasm for performing oral sex (fellatio, blowjob, giving head) and their ability at doing it.
Three categories of enthusiasm for performing fellatio.
- Some woman seem to love performing oral sex on a guy.
- Others do it after some encouragement from their man, such as a little downward pressure on the woman's head. Been there?
- Other women don't like to perform blowjobs at all.
Being ignored ain't nice From a guy's perspective, the first group is clearly the most popular. Why? Just because guys love the feeling of a blowjob? Well that's a big factor, but there's another important point to consider. It's the simple issue of acceptance.
For example, if you make eye contact with someone you know, but they look away without acknowledging you, what goes through your mind? Probably that they don't like you, right. How do you feel? It's not nice to be ignored, right?
So the problem with the second group is that the guy feels that the woman doesn't want to 'talk with him', and needs to chase her down to get some 'conversation'. The third group doesn't even respond to some encouragement. Yakes!
What women may not know is that a guy's penis is pretty much his soul. When a woman shows hesitation or flatly refuses to give head, it's a feeling of rejection.
For a man to feel accepted and loved unconditionally, a woman needs to treat a man's penis like it's the most wonderful thing in the world. If a woman does that, a guy feels great on the inside and he'll have a much stronger sex drive too. Why? Because without blowjob attention, it's all one-way traffic, with the guy giving it to the women. A nice feeling physically, but emotionally it's "I give, she doesn't". Once a guy feels that he is receiving attention, he'll enjoy giving his woman more attention too - both physically and emotionally. Win/win.
One simple act that can make a huge difference is this: When you're kissing in private and sexual intimacy is going to follow, take the initiative and put your hand on his crotch, stroking it gently. There's a massive difference between a guy taking your hand and encouraging you to give a him a stroke as opposed to you doing it yourself. The difference is "I love your penis and want it" versus "Okay, I'll do it if I have to".
Don't underestiate the power of something so simple! If you want to please your man more and have better sex, take the initative more both with blowjobs and sex in general.
Just put it in your mouth and bob up and down So you've decided to take the initiative and make your man feel loved. Is there any skill to giving a good blowjob? Yes, yes and yes. It's nothing like "Just put it in your mouth and bob up and down." That's like saying that ballet is just jumping and spinning in the air. Sounds easy. No need for special instruction just to do that!
If you want to really blow a guy's mind, you'll need some instruction and most likely not from your female friends. The simple fact is that the vast majority of women, even those in the first category, simple don't now how to perform fellatio well. For a lot of guys it'll actually become boring after the first minute and the main satisfaction will be just the mental satisfaction of knowing that she was down there.
To blow his head and his mind, take time to learn the skills from a good teacher. Here's one tip: When his penis pops out into the world after pulling down his underwear, greet his penis like your best friend ever:
- "Hello handsome!"
- "Hello my friend!"
- "Beautiful boy!"