In this day and age where so much of what ails society is blamed on the falling apart of the family structure it is surprising when people look for divorce party to celebrate the fact that their marriage has failed and they have now joined the ranks of the overwhelming amount of failed marriages in the United States. Many people would question that statement and say that they look for divorce party to try and help cheer up the person that just got divorced because a divorce is a horrible experience and they look for divorce party to try and put a smile on the person’s face. If you have ever been around for divorce party then you know that most times a divorce party is not a mere attempt to cheer up the person getting divorced but rather it is usually seen as a time to degrade the opposite sex as much as possible in an attempt to partially feel like there has been atonement for the years of suffering while being married. That is why the most popular place for a divorce party to happen is the local strip club. Divorce parties have become so popular that many larger strip clubs even offer divorce party specials, or so I have heard. To say that it is only a guy thing to look for a divorce party at a strip club is looking at it the wrong way. Just as many women have their divorce parties in strip clubs as men do and it is even becoming a trend to move divorce parties to more private accommodations.

The divorce party is beginning to turn into a throw back to the days of the Roman Empire when there was no regard for morality and when anything was allowed to happen. The premise for a divorce party is that the person getting divorced has felt that they were involved in a bad marriage and now that they are out of that bad marriage they are celebrating. You could have the divorce party at a nice restaurant, or a small banquet room, but the negative connotation of divorce automatically causes the divorce party to be seen as a promiscuous event where the divorcee is once again on the prowl for a mate and this party is that first step towards getting re-acquainted with other members of the opposite sex. It seems like such a heartless type of event because, unless you are coming out of a short and loveless marriage, a divorce is a traumatic event that takes a while to get over. While your friends’ intentions on the outside may seem admirable the fact is that the best way to recover from divorce is a slow re-entrance into the arena of dealing with the opposite sex. Having a Roman orgy immediately following the failure of what is supposed to be a life long relationship seems a little callous.

Maybe these sentiments are old fashioned and maybe they are coming from someone who is happily married, but whatever the origin of the statements it only matters that divorce parties are still largely underground events. Mostly a divorce party is held at a strip club or in someone’s private home but as the concept of celebrating divorce becomes more and more accepted it is inevitable that these parties will move into more mainstream venues. Maybe someday people will understand that celebrating the failures in our society is probably not helping things at all.