Childhood sexuality includes behavioural differences between the genders needed to establish a cycle of behaviour that will be followed by them throughout life. A significant factor in both infant sexuality and childhood sexuality stems from a need to be liked for appearance. The appearance factor is crucial to the building of self esteem. No one wants to hear that they are considered ugly, because ugliness is associated with something that is negative and unlikely to be attractive to a mate. Both infant sexuality and childhood sexuality are the initial steps by which an individual learns about how others view them which plays a significant part in the way that they see themselves.
Being popular during childhood allows an individual’s self esteem to grow and potentially provide a sound basis for them to develop a natural appreciation of how to interact with others. This early form of communication establishes in the mind of each individual an appreciation of their own sexuality simply because they will recognise their own popularity by comparison to others. Between the sexes childhood sexuality differs in as much as boys develop their desire to be attractive to the opposite sex later. Hence it is common to witness boys initially preferring the company of other boys until their sexuality stirs making them seek other needs not found in the relationships they have nor considered necessary until the chemistry clock triggers an appreciation for something fresh. When a boy registers that relationships should provide him with more he will adopt what childhood sexuality has shown him as needed to attract friends and test to see whether these assets work in the same way. The difference to the boy however, is that he will now become active in searching for a relationship that provides what his body tells him it needs. This change in attitude towards sexuality does not occur overnight, but gradually builds up over a period of years subtly preparing the youth for what will remain with him for life.
Experiences during childhood remain with individuals throughout their lives and possibly none more so than those of a sexual nature. It seems reasonable to suggest that an individual’s sexual preferences are set long before the individual is fully mature. Discovering a preference only comes with experience and the discovery of what does little or nothing at a sexual level remains unknown until it is experienced. That does not mean that each individual should try everything related to sex in order to discover what works best for them, it simply means that when an enjoyable experience is found it will remain with the individual as something special to them.
This would also be true with regard to partnerships, when finding someone special includes compatibility in all areas involving love and sex. Other issues such as career and wealth etc are only obstacles to a loving relationship when people make them so.