Most people are familiar with the problem of domestic violence; however when this is discussed it is most often geared toward adults. Minors are often the victims of teen dating violence and this issue must be addressed. Just as with domestic violence, the predators of teen violence often try to take control of the victim. This can be done with physical, emotional and verbal abuse. The perpetrator of dating violence will often make an attempt to make the victim feel as if they are at fault. In addition, violent teens can attempt to portray themselves as acting out violently in the name of love. For example, if a teenage boy hits his girlfriend, he may attempt to recover from this by using an excuse that he loves her so much that his jealously prompted violence, done in the name of love. This is in no way acceptable; violence is violence no matter what the situation or circumstances.

One must be aware of what is unacceptable in a relationship. Violence can include many elements besides hitting. Pushing, threats, throwing things, punching walls, driving erratically in anger, destroying objects such as clothes, pinching, slapping, hair pulling and any other acts that are disrespectful fall into the category of teen dating violence.

It is not always easy for a teen to speak up regarding other violent teens. They may fear retribution or they may felt that no one will understand. Sadly, some teens will still feel that they are in love with the violent teens that they are dating. It must be known that strength must be needed to be free from the violence. If a teen stays in a violent relationship, it will most undoubtedly turn worse. Almost every violent person does not suddenly become peaceful and calm. It may be a bit difficult to tell parents of this issue, but it must be done. One must understand that when a person is violent toward another, this nullifies any love. Real love cannot exist when one is hurting the other. A teen has many years ahead of them to find others who will show respect, caring, kindness and love; all without any teen dating violence.

A teen must become removed from the violent situation. Despite what may be thought or what may be seen in moves, almost all violent teens will stand down when confronted with the possibility of going to jail. Any and all physical marks such as bruises should be documented. The police can be called after an incident. Most importantly, a restraining order can and will be issued against the violent teen. A restraining order will stop teen dating violence. The perpetrator will be ordered by a court of law to keep away from the victim. If that person violates the order, they will face incarceration. No sympathy should be felt at this time; the perpetrator will be making a choice. Most often, the bully that once pushed his girlfriend around will back down as the coward they truly are.

Life is too short for any teen to put up with teen dating violence. For some teens, they may feel as if they will never again find someone that cares about them. Truth be told, almost every teen will not marry the person they date when they are teenagers. as life moves on and people grow and mature, they will then find the person who is right for them.