What's in a kiss, you ask? A kiss is one of the most intimate things you can do with another person. More importantly, your kiss style is a reflection of what kind of lover you are. Do you live for long, lingering kisses? Or maybe you prefer hot and fast tongue-aerobatics? Whether you're a born romantic, steamy sensualist, playful, or a fast operator, your kiss style tells your partner things about you that could never be put into words. So what kiss style are you?
The Romantic Kiss Style
If you're a romantic, the perfect kiss scenario for you probably involves moonlight, a soft summer breeze, and the perfect person to share a long, slow kiss. The best way to approach the romantic kiss technique is through a "chin kiss." A chin kiss involves holding your partner's chin with your thumb, index, and middle fingers, pull them slightly towards you, tilting their head, and planting a soft, gentle kiss on their lips. The chin kiss is one of the easiest ways to initiate a kiss, and always makes a great first kiss. A chin kiss is also a nice way of slowing things down if you think you're kissing is too fast and sloppy.
Somewhat related to the chin kiss is the "surprise kiss." The surprise kiss is exactly what it sounds like: wait until your partner is preoccupied, and then kiss them. Maybe she is resting or asleep. Approach quietly-you don't want to ruin the surprise!-and kiss her very softly on the lips. As she wakes, intensify the kiss a bit. Or maybe your partner is hard at work, bent over a pile of papers and lost in his work. Again, approach quietly, then gently kiss him, lips slightly parted, on the cheek, then the mouth. With the right person, surprise kisses can add a whole new dimension to your relationship.
The Steamy Sensualist
If you're idea of the perfect kiss involves hard, fast tongue action, sucking, nibbling and experimentation, chances are you are more of a sensualist than a romantic. How you use your tongue is a big part of your kiss style. Sucking on your partner's tongue, running your tongue over their teeth, gently nibbling on your partner's tongue-all are teasing and steamy maneuvers that you can practice and enjoy with your kissing partner.
If you consider yourself a romantic who is new to tongue kissing and would like to spice things up a bit, try a round of "tongue wars" to break the ice. In this kiss, each person uses their tongue to try to block the other person's tongue from entering their mouth. Playing tongue wars is enjoyable for both partners, and the fun of the challenge loosens up even the most nervous kissers.
Can I Kiss You?
There is much debate about whether you should ask permission for a first kiss. Men commonly face this dilemma, although in today's dating climate, women may also face this question. Asking someone "Can I kiss you?" is a very courteous thing to do, but some say, not very romantic or passionate. This really depends on the other person. If you're dating someone who is a bit shy or inhibited, asking permission for a kiss may not be such a bad idea. But if you're dating someone who is bold, outgoing, and seems to enjoy a challenge, asking permission may come across as a sign of timidity and lack of passion.
Your Kissing Personality
Remember, there is no such as the perfect kiss or kiss style. The truth is, the perfect kiss has to do more with who you share it with than technique. The best kissers are able to adapt to each intimate situation. Good kissers know how to drive their partners wild by being both romantics and steamy sensualists.