When guys are young they love to show their other guy friends how cool they are, at age 4, to think that girls are not unlike aliens from outer space. Why would anyone want anything to do with such creatures? The strange thing is that, at an early age, guys do have the inclination to seek out a girl friend. Even though the natural instinct is to want a steady female companion, young males still play that game when they are in a group that makes girls sound like the plague. So when do young boys start to grow out of the “icky girl” phase and blossom into young men in search of a girl friend? It usually happens when someone else in their circle of friends decides to take on a girl friend and lets all of his friends know he has one. Suddenly, after years and years of pretending to avoid girls, it becomes every young man’s quest to find himself a lady fair. Along the way each guy will collect a variety of female friends. But make no mistake, at some point almost all of a guy’s female friends was at one point being considered for the role of girl friend.
Girls look at life much differently than guys do. To girls life has emotion, color, and a variety of purposes. To a guy life is sterile, black and white, and contains only one real purpose. That purpose is the pursuit of the girls. To say that a guy considers life sterile is not a bad thing. We just don’t look at everything in terms of how everyone involved is feeling. Yes this gets us in trouble a lot of the time but we are used to it. Guys just want the facts. We don’t need the color of emotions adding to it. A black and white world, that is a guy’s world. I am certain it was a guy that invented the notion that all we need to know is who, what, where, when, and why. Notice that the word motivation is not part of that. Life is very much on the surface to a guy. We don’t do emotions very well at all. So we prefer to keep things as simple as possible. A lot of guys would be just as happy living in a studio apartment and driving a beat up old Chevy Nova than buying a big house or a big car. But we buy the big house and the big car to impress the girls. Whether they want to admit it or not, even with all of the emphasis on emotion, girls like to have stuff. Usually girls like to have expensive stuff. They may say they don’t need expensive stuff, but they all would like expensive stuff. Don’t believe me? Try this experiment with your girl friend. On a Friday night take her to McDonald’s and a movie. The next Friday take her to a really nice restaurant and then to see a play in a large theater. Something tells me the latter will get more of a response. To a guy either of those evenings is fine. To a girl there is a difference.
Guys and girls operate in different ways. As guys get older they tend to treat the world in more “on the surface” type terms. But in order to have a girl friend, which every guy wants eventually, guys need to also learn to tread on that bed of nails know as emotion.