Added: 04/20/2007 |
Thriving In The New York Swing SceneSwinging--enjoying sexual relationships with people other than your significant other with your significant other's consent--has become a popular lifestyle choice for many people. If you live in the Big Apple, you'll find the New York swing scene is alive and well with enough variation to cater to almost every taste imaginable. If you and your partner are just getting started as New York swingers, you may be wondering what to do and where to go to meet other couples in the New York swing scene. This article discusses basic terms used in swinging and introduces the reader to different swing clubs and personals pages.
Swingers in rural areas and small towns tend to have trouble finding other couples who play the way they do. But if you're stepping out on the vibrant New York swing scene, you can rest assured that you will find people to cater to your every taste and interest.
Before jumping into the New York swing scene, however, it is important to learn some of the basic terminology used in personals ads and conversation. This article offers a quick look at some of the more common terms. The rest you can pick up as you go along.
Basic Terminology
BDSM - These letters stand for "bondage/discipline/sadism/masochism." Couples who play with BDSM are probably into restraints, verbal humiliation, or inflicting physical pain (everything from mild spanking to severe whipping to piercing to hot wax). If this is your scene, be sure to find couples whose limits and boundaries match yours.
Clean or D/D - D/D means "drug and disease free." Clean also implies freedom from sexually transmitted diseases. Even if someone says they are clean, it's better to practice safe sex when you swing.
Full - Two couples are expected to exchange partners.
Hard - Sexual intercourse expected/required.
Menage a Trois - Three people involved; usually two women and a man.
P/P - Phrase used in personals. It is a request for your photo/phone number.
Soft Swap - Couples exchange partners for sexual activities that do not include penile- vaginal intercourse. May involve oral sex or mutual masturbation.
Soft Swinging - Sexual intercourse is not expected. It may not even be desired.
Finding the New York Swing Scene
Now that you know the terms, you're probably eager to start hooking up with other New York swingers. There are a couple of ways to do this. One way is through personal ads. Meeting someone through a personal ad allows you to get to know them a little at a time. You may email back and forth or talk on the phone for weeks before you ever actually decide to meet each other. Sometimes, you may decide that the other couple's desires do not closely match your own and agree to move on without a meeting.
SDC.com offers a long list of New York Swingers Personals
(http://www.sdc.com/swingers/New-York-Swingers.html). Click on the area closest to where you live and read the personals. If you are interested, you can contact them through email. (Note: before you respond to any emails, you will be asked to join SDC.com.)
Another way into the New York swing scene is to go to swinger's clubs. Some couples are hesitant or shy about doing this, preferring to know other swingers a little better before they enter into a sexual relationship with them. But if you're more into action than talk, the New York swing club scene might be perfect for you.
For a list of New York swingers clubs, go to http://www.swingersclublist.com/New_York_swingers.html.
Whatever you do, and whomever you do it with, remember that safe sex is hot sex. When you swing, even if the other couple claims to be clean, always use protection such as condoms, spermicide, dental dams, etc. No amount of great sex is worth your life!
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