The first of styles of parenting is the permissive parent; these parents attempt to behave in a nonpunitive, acceptant and affirmative manner towards the child’s impulses, desires and actions. The parents consult with them about policy decisions and gives explanations for family rules. The parents make few demands for household responsibility and orderly behavior. Presents themselves to the child as a resource for the use as they wish, not as an ideal him to emulate, nor as an active agent responsible for shaping and altering hid ongoing or future behavior. The parent allows the child to regulate his own activities as much as possible, avoids the exercise of control, and does not encourage him to obey externally defined standards to accomplish her end.
Another style of parenting is The authoritarian parent, which attempts to shape, control, and evaluate the behavior and attitudes of the child in accordance with the set standard of conduct, usually an absolute standard, theologically motivated and formulates by a higher authority. The parent values obedience as a virtue and favors punitive, forceful measures to curb self-will at points where the child’s actions or beliefs conflict with what they think is right conduct. They believe in keeping the child in their place, in restricting their autonomy, and in assigning household responsibilities in order to inculate respect for work. They regard the preservation of order and traditional structure as a highly valued end in itself. The do not encourage verbal give and take, believing that the child should accept their word of what is right.
I don’t think I would want to be those last parents much less have my children under rule of that last parent. Although here’s another one, the last of styles of parenting. The authoritative parent attempts the child’s activities but in a rational, issue-oriented manner. The parent encourages verbal give and take, shares with the child the reasoning behind their policy, and solicits their objections when they refuse to conform. Both autonomous self- will and disciplined conformity are valued. They value both expressive and instrumental attributes, both autonomous self-willed and disciplined conformity. Therefore they exert firm control at points of parent-child divergence, but do not hem the child with restrictions. They do enforce their own perspective and an adult, but recognize the child’s interests and special ways. The authoritative parent affirms the child’s present qualities, but sets standards for future conduct. They uses reason, power, and shaping by regime and reinforcement to achieve their objectives, and does not base their decisions on group consensus or the indivual child’s desires but also does not regard themselves as infallible or divinely inspired.
So no matter what of styles of parenting you raise you children with, all of us are going to make mistakes. We are all going to wish that we would have raised them better, or done this better or that better. Paid more attention here and let them do more here. Child rearing styles come in all different shapes and sizes none are right or wrong.