No one ever looks forward to divorce, and though it may be for the greater good in the long run, the ones who suffer the most from the resulting implications are children. Children and divorce can be a touchy subject for many, and learning to emotionally deal with a separation or divorce, especially for a child, can be extremely difficult. Finding oneself in a situation where divorce is necessary will primarily lead to constant worry over the implications directed towards each spouse. Children are often the voiceless victims in these situations. Implications of infidelity are a leading cause of separation or divorce, and can be painful for any children associated.
One key aspect to minimizing the implications of divorce on your children is to maintain their regular schedule as much as possible. One of the biggest fears associated with children and divorce is that the child's life will be forever changed. While some change is inevitable, a complete alteration in schedule is to be avoided if at all possible. The implications surrounding a great change are that the child is being removed from all they are familiar with, and thus losing the inherent sense of security they previously knew. As this will feel remarkably like a type of punishment for the child, it is in this scenario that many start to feel as if the divorce was their fault.
Another way to soothe the ugly implications of separation or divorce is to let the child maintain contact with those people they had already established relationships with. IF it is possible to stay in the same area, then do so. If a move is absolutely necessary, allow the child to maintain contact through email, postal mail and telephone calls as much as possible. Implications to the child following a divorce are that he or she will have to give up all their friends and loves ones. Taking the time to explain these implications away will help prevent the child from developing resentment towards the divorcing parents.
And perhaps the simplest way to avoid the ugly implications of separation or divorce, is for the parents to avoid, at all costs, bad mouthing each other. Name-calling, telling the children how awful their father or mother are, to appease a person's own injured feelings simply shouldn't be done. The child, until this point, has been taught that the two most dependable and wonderful people in the world are his or her parents. To try and change that belief at this point, and thus turn the child against one parent or the other, will only create confusion and mistrust in a young mind.
Divorce is painful for everyone involved, with no exceptions. The implications society places on those going through a divorce only serve to make the process that much harder. Those implications regularly filter down to hurt the innocent, most frequently the children of the divorcing couple. Following these few simple ideas can help make the transition easier for already confused children, and help them recover from this already traumatic experience.