If a person wishes to send another an introductory message, great care should be taken so that the receiver is pleased to read it. A person should begin by introducing themselves. They should not, for example, send a letter and end it by saying, “oh, by the way, my name is so-and-so”. Start by saying hello and telling the person your first name. It is best to not ramble on about yourself. A person will be interested if you mention things you have read in their profile. Too many people only look at the photographs. If you mention certain aspects of a person’s profile, they will be very impressed that you took the time to read it. If they mentioned certain music that they like and you like it also, you can mention that and maybe tell them which song is your favorite. Likewise, if they mention a hobby, such as skiing, you can tell them you too are a skier and tell them which ski resort you find the most fun.
Your letter should always end with a question before you say goodbye. If you do not, they will have trouble thinking of what to say in a reply. If you enter one or two questions, this will prompt the person to respond back to you. Most people who are using online communications love to know someone is interested in them. If you seem generally interested in something and ask them about it, you will most likely receive a quick response. When sending your first online communications, do not include a phone number. You must go at a reasonable pace. In addition, while it may take just one extra minute, you should be sure to use a spell-check tool. Online communications that include typos are not well received. The typos stick out like a sore thumb and will not make a good impression. Typos are the characteristics of someone who is sloppy and uneducated.
Once you have received a reply back, you can then write back and talk about things that were left out of the profile. Ask any questions that you feel are important in order to get to know that person. Of course, do not ask any sexual or rude question; that is one sure-fire way to not receive a reply back.
If the online communications of emails seem to be going good, you can suggest meeting online for an instant message chat. This form of online communications will allow the two of you to talk in “real-time” and conversations will be able to flow. Even though you will not usually be able to use a spell-check for this type of online communications, it is best to type slow enough that you do not make too many mistakes. Try to not use a lot of abbreviations, as others may not be familiar with the same ones you use. Try to not let a long lag occur between replies, as the other person may suspect you are not very interested. If all goes well, it is then that you can request to telephone the other person.