It's the hardest thing for many parents to accept, the issue of their teens being pregnant. It makes them feel as if all the dreams that they had for their children have gone out through the window. It is like a personal blow, an indication of the failure as a parent.
Teenagers parents need to understand that their teens are not pets that can be trained into submission. If you show your teen a level of respect and trust, often they find it hard to break that trust. If you are constantly suspicious of them, then they will give you reasons to stay suspicious.
Often most parents handle their teens the way that they would of liked to be treated when they were teens. This reflects on the parent's history. If they are overly protective or suspicious, it is because they know what "they" did as teenagers therefore making the assumption that, that is what their teens are doing or will be doing.
Society seems to be having a difficult time with teenage issues, especially teenage pregnancy and teenagers parenting. Where we are made to believe that teenagers aren't capable of being good parents. It is often thought that teenagers parenting skills could not match up to those of their adult counterparts. However what society seems to forget is that it wasn't so long ago in our history that teenagers are getting married and having children. Just going back a few generations will reveal that perhaps one's great - great grandparent, had children when she was sixteen. Did that make her a bad parent then?
This assumption is based on the fact that if a teenager is reckless enough to get pregnant then they are not capable of being good parents. It's a sad misconception that leads teenagers parents to think that the responsibility of their grandchildren now falls on their shoulder. The question is always "How can a baby take care of a baby?"
However Mother Nature has made provisions. Practice for parenthood begins even before the baby is born. This is what many teenagers parents are also finding out. The instinct to preserve and protect your child is as much alive in many teen parents as it is in adult parents. Not many of the parents today knew much about taking care of children until they learnt these skills when they had children. And with each child there came improvements of the methods used. That is what teenagers parenting skills is also about, trial and error learning from your mistakes and becoming a better person and parent in that regard.
If teen parents are being bad parents its because their own parents take away the responsibility from them, leaving them to feel that their child is no longer theirs and it is now their parents responsibility. And that leads to neglect and disinterest. It doesn't help one much to be constantly told, "What do you know about babies?" and then have their baby taken away from them.
Teenagers parenting skills are also improving, as society is learning not to hide this embarrassment, but to at least cater for it. Facing this teenage issue only helps society admit to the reality of it. It should not be seen as an encouragement for teen pregnancies, but instead as an aiding tool to help the already existing teen parents raise full and capable individuals.
Teen parents also want the best for their children, although sometimes the hormones of youth still take over. Remember the whole reality of learning is that it is through trial and error, where none of us is perfect.