The most common type of American single parents is single moms, but single dads are growing in number as well. The missing parent may not be there because the two parents were never married, one parent died, or through a divorce or abandonment. Less commonly, a single person may choose to have a baby through artificial insemination or adoption. When there is a single parents situation, the parent has to take on all of the responsibility of caring for the family financially and emotionally. This usually means that single parents must turn to day care for their children, because there is no other parent available to care for the children. This is one of the challenges faced by American single parents.
Often American single parents feel guilty because they cannot be with their children all the time. On television, traditional families are shown that have at least one parent at home with the children. Sometimes they imply that the parent also has a successful career, while being home with the kids. This is simply unrealistic for most families. Having a career means you will be away from your children. That does not mean that you cannot be a great parent. Do not let a sense of guilt overwhelm you! Do the best you can for your kids, and they will be find.
American single parents face the struggle of raising their children without a parent of the opposite gender. For example, a single mom of boys will not have the male presence in the family to help teach the boys thing dads traditionally do, like how to fix the car. One of the ways to combat this is to enlist the help of another male presence, such as a grandfather, uncle, or friend. It is fine for you to ask someone you trust to take part in your child’s life. In this way, children of single parents do not have to suffer due to the lack of a parent.
Children of single parents face emotional struggles. They may feel depressed and guilty, especially if a divorce is involved. These children often blame themselves for the parent leaving. As they are children, they cannot process the situation without emotion. Since money problems often are present in single parent families, the stress of the financial situation often contributes to family arguments, which are difficult for the children. Children from single-family homes are more likely to engage in crimes during their teenage years. Due to this, single parents need to do all they can to ensure that they are staying in touch with their children’s lives. Single parents, if they stay involved, can raise happy, well-adjusted children, but it is certainly challenging. If you are a single parent, avoid the temptation to over-compensate for what you feel your children are missing. Just be the best parent you can be, and you will raise great kids.