Attention, women! When singles flirt up, they send at least two strong messages to guys. The first, “I’m interested.” The second is, “And I have the guts to do something about it instead of waiting for you to come to me.” Guys dig that. In spite of what some “rules” tell us, most guys don’t want to date a shrinking violet who expects them to take the lead in every situation. They want an emotional and intellectual equal.
But, you may be thinking, I don’t know how singles flirt up. I’ve never done it before. Well, it’s not hard to learn. Read on for some ideas.
Offer Inventive Compliments
“You have great eyes,” is about as boring as, “So, do you come here often?” Instead, offer a compliment on something unique about the person, preferably something under his control. For instance, “I love the way you tell a joke,” or “Where on earth did you get that cool tattoo?”
Fish For Conversation Starters
We’ve all heard the tired old flirting quotes. (“You must be pretty tired, because you’ve been running through my head all day.”) Don’t use them. They’re not in now, if they ever were.
When singles flirt up now, they actually talk to each other. So, after saying hello, offer a few conversation openers: “Have you seen any good movies lately?” “Do you see the [insert name of local football team] making it to the Superbowl this year?” “Tell me about the last book you’ve read.”
When you’re flirting, avoid sensitive topics like politics and religion.
But Enough About You, What About Me?
By all means, encourage the object of your interest to talk about himself. But that doesn’t mean he gets to do all the talking. Share your own stories, ideas, and experiences as well.
Make sure you keep the initial conversation right. You’re with an attractive guy, not a psychotherapist. Now isn’t the time to mention your lifelong battle with kleptomania.
It’s also a good idea not to give out too much personal information.
Follow Up: Give Him Your Digits (If You Want To)
When today’s singles flirt up, they know better than to leave a public place with a virtual stranger. Instead, write your phone number on a napkin, piece of scrap paper, etc., and tuck it into his shirt pocket. Or, if you have the nerve, into his pants pocket.
Many women use “throwaway” phone numbers, numbers they can ditch easily if a would-be suitor becomes a bother…or worse, a stalker. Consider getting a cell phone for the sole purpose of receiving calls from flirtees.
Flirting is a harmless, fun way to express your interest in guys you meet in casual settings. With a little confidence in yourself, you can make a knockout impression in no time.