Visitation rights are not for everyone. Recently there was an incident where a father was charged with sexual molestation of his 6 year old daughter. When there was no conviction, the visitation rights of the father were restored. During the first time they had to go back to their father’s house, the father approached the mother and whispered in her ear something about his experience with the child and the mother shot him in the face with a shot gun. I’d say she took care of the father's visitation rights. Where the state fails, parents must, absolutely must do what is necessary to protect their children. This mother felt that visitation rights were so detrimental to her child that she was willing to give her life to keep these from being exercised.
When the state’s order visitation, the idea is to encourage and foster love between both parents and the children. In order to do this, there must be time spent with both parents. In their efforts to remain objective during an already emotionally upsetting time in their lives, most parents agree to the standard order of visitation and try their best to make it work. What happens most times though, is that one parent or the other will “skip” their opportunity to exercise their visitation rights and do something else. This leaves a very wide, very dangerous door open if the divorce is less than peaceful. Parents should not take advantage of this opportunity to talk badly about the other parent. In fact, this is the time when a parent can shine the most in the adult lives of their children. As children age, they remember things that were not so prevalent in their lives at the time, like mom siding with them to be mad about dad not coming to get them. When they grow up to realize that, although mom and dad didn’t get along and didn’t love each other anymore, they still loved the children enough to behave, it will come back to the parents ten fold.
The children benefit the most from visitation with the other parent. If you love your children, allow them an unrestricted right to visit their other parent.