There are a good many things that people celebrate some of which many do not understand.  That can hold true for a separation party or divorce party.  The concept is fairly new, but a separation party is meant to celebrate the separation of two people who are planning to end a relationship.  This often times seems strange to people who look on with horror while someone celebrates a potentially devastating event in their lives.  A separation party of two people can help in some ways to heal the wounds that have been created in a poor relationship.  It is no surprise that a divorce is a dark time for many and a separation party may be just the ticket to bring someone out of the dark and depressing place they are in and rekindle a spirit, which they thought was lost.  A separation party does have some basic rules to follow and those attending the separation party of the two people should stick to them at all costs.

The first rule is too have fun.  In order to bring the party custody holder out of the divorce or separation funk you must ensure that they have a good time at all costs.  Revolve the separation party around a central theme that does not relate to the divorce.  Too many reminders will work against the common goal and return the party custody holder back to their original state.  Fun at a separation party can come in many forms, the least of which being movies.  Go to the store and rent several lively and upbeat movies that will help to bring about interest in the party custody holder.  Include them in the selection of the movies if at all possible.  There are several movies that have a great theme about overcoming a devastating divorce or separation and are funny at the same time, these are great choices.

Secondly, do not remind the party custody holder of why the party is being held.  This will help to give the event a light and upbeat mood while keeping it spontaneous at the same time.  If the guests are female, it may be prudent to spend some time-sharing feelings with one another, but try to steer the conversation away from the party custody holders former mate.  The sharing of feelings should revolve more around the transition and moving on with ones life.  Share personal experiences about divorce and separation could be helpful but allow the person guide the conversation.

Lastly, you should avoid any type of destructive behavior.  Never encourage the party person to destroy anything in their home that may remind them of the separation.  This can only hurt the intentions of the party.  The healing process is the most important part of the separation party and destroying of possessions is not conducive to this.  Remember to encourage the person to have fun.  Tell them to let their hair down and break out a little bit.  This will help in the moving on process and can make the party even more fun if it gets a little wild.

You are not going to try and celebrate like you have just won something. Although you have in effect won something you wouldn't want to rub it in your ex partners face too much, because you wouldn't like it if they did the same to you would you? So try not to go too wild but just remind yourself that you are more then entitled to let your hair down after all that has gone on over the past few months if not years.