It almost seems out of fashion: the decision for a girl to keep her virginity until marriage. Or for young adults of both sexes not to smoke, or do drugs or involve themselves in any number of activities that their counterparts deem "cool and exciting". But surprisingly, there's been a movement on the rise during the last decade that's been welcomed with opened arms: positive peer pressure. For lack of a better example, its strength in numbers, it's like-mined individuals staying together; it's a social support network of teens that believe it's cool to be old fashioned.
Positive peer pressure has taken a look at the activities of teenagers and young adults, and has allowed this most tenuous of age groups the ability to step back and say, "It's o-k to remain a virgin" or to say, "I don't need to do drugs or smoke cigarettes in order to be cool". Admittedly, this is not an easy thing to accomplish. Peer pressure among high school students is intense, and countered by family pressure at home telling teens what to do or not do. Positive peer pressure has taken responsibility and put it back into the hands of the teens themselves.
The most impressive trait about positive peer pressure is that in many instances it only takes one of two students to get the ball rolling. Once a core support group has been created it seems to attract other teens. Family pressure has been known to quickly subside. And rather than preaching about the negative side of adolescence, positive peer pressure merely networks out its philosophy about growing up and being smart and not caving in to "negative" peer pressure.
The results have been astounding. Especially in many inner city schools, positive peer pressure has evolved into the latest "cool" thing. Teens have created their own positive click. They were there own special T-Shirts that proclaim, "I'm a Virgin and Proud of It". These teens support their communities. For example, organizing safe-driving campaigns during the holidays for their friends who do drink or party too much.
Positive peer pressure has taken a low key approach to educating students. Knowing full well that the presence of parents, clergymen or teachers can flounder even the best of intentions, these pro-action teen groups maintain the direction of the course they have chosen to follow.
A mis-interpretation of the goal of positive peer pressure is to think it deals with only teenage sexuality. Certainly that is one of its foundations. By teaching responsible decisions regarding sex, the risk of teenage pregnancy, AIDS and Sexually transmitted diseases is reduced. But the full impact of PPP is felt over a wide range of teen issues.
Despite parent's best intentions, there's no guarantee that any child will turn out perfect. Assuming anything less is not realistic. Positive per pressure has - at the least - taken a more modern approach by presenting ideas and concepts that may be worth following.
"Why lose your virginity in the backseat of Chevy, when you can wait and experience a deeper love with the person you choose to spend your life with?" A tough choice to make, especially if all your friends are doing something completely different, but a healthy choice to follow that ultimately pays big dividends in the future.