The Mormon Church started to ex-communicate members who had multiple wives in early 20th Century. Instead stating that only one wife should be had by a husband and that multiple wives held by a husband, who were considered “wife lovers”, be condemned by the Church and its congregation.
Monogamy is what is practiced by most people here in the U.S., but there are some so-called religious groups that believe and practice polygamy with all “our wives” and their children, down through all their generation
In Nepal, a race of people known as the Nyinba practice a kind of polygamy that is called polyandry. This is where a woman can have several husbands. A woman marries one man and becomes married to his entire Brother’s also. Every Brother has the right to have a sexual relationship with the one woman.
Some women who used to be part of the “our wives” societies, decided they wanted a different life than what they where living. They would have to settle for what time the husband could spare for just time with them, because he had to keep the other wives happy too. They would have to watch their husband spend intimate moments with other women as they sired his children also.
The hard part was getting used to sharing a home with the man whom you loved plus all the other women he decidedly loved also. Some women couldn’t pretend their lifestyles were normal and left this lifestyle for good, never looking back again. They went on to truly normal stable lives with one husband who loved and cared for only they and they rose they’re children as a family together.
Other of these ‘our wives” groups do not mind the sharing of their home or their husbands. They believe this to be totally normal everyday life as this is how they were brought up and they have lived throughout their childhoods. Their children will more than likely follow in their parent’s footsteps and practice polygamy too.
Much of us today frown upon these “wifelovers” and the act of polygamy itself. Monogamy is what we were brought up to believe in and dream of one husband and a lifetime of happiness with that one person for the rest of our lives when we were older.
There are polygamy sects throughout the United States too. Communes exist that have been practicing and bringing their children up with their beliefs for centuries. Most of these communes operate in ultimate secrecy; most do not want to make their whereabouts and their practices known to others. Other communes live their life freely admitting their lifestyle and beliefs without any fears of retribution.
However, you were raised and whatever lifestyle you choose, make sure that is the life you want to have for the rest of your life and one you would be glad and proud to bring your children up in also. Because your tendencies and your morality will rub off on them as you are their best role model in life. Your children should be proud to say these are my parent’s or “our Parents”, as your husband should be proud to say this is my wife or “our wives” whichever the case may be.