Added: 10/25/2005 |
Making The Most Of First EncountersIf you are about to go on a blind date, then you will be sharing your time with someone who you never met. Here are some suggested ways to derive the greatest enjoyment from such first encounters.
First, be prepared to open-up, to share with your date some of your interests and experiences. If you clam-up instead of opening-up, then your date could develop into a very uncomfortable situation. If you fail to open-up you will not complete any date with a good impression of first encounters.
Next, recognize the fact that your date, too, will probably (and hopefully) want to open-up. You must be ready to be a willing listener. Sometimes this can be difficult. If your date has a heavy accent, or if your date stutters and stammers, then your job as a listener will take-on added difficulty. However, if you find that your date has other attributes that make her or him attractive, then you will need to focus harder on listening to what your date has to say.
First encounters, such as those experienced on a blind date also work-out better if both dating partners take time to show appreciation. If a woman is taken out to dinner, then she must show that she appreciates the meal. If a man is taking a woman to a party or a dance, then he should show his appreciation for her glowing appearance, her ability to complement his own gentlemanly qualities.
Sometimes a blind date will expose you to the faults of another person.When this happens, do not act as though you are unwilling to accept that person's failings. In first encounters both partners need to admit that we are all human, and that we all have flaws in our character. During first encounters you want to try to reach beyond such flaws.
Finally, do not hesitate to talk with your date about your reaction of this first encounter. Your ability to analyze first encounters will aid you in improving the way that you handle all future encounters.
Remember, that while a blind date is seldom a certain prelude to sexual encounters, your ability to handle such first encounters could later assist you with the handling of sexual encounters. Your successful handling of first encounters could prepare you for an eventual intimate encounter.
In an intimate encounter two partners move beyond conversation about general interests and typical experiences. They begin to share their close and confidential thoughts and feelings. This progression to greater intimacy will only happen if one has capitalized on the potential of a first encounter.
A blind date can do more than just put two people together in the same room. A blind date can provide a window into aspects of life with which you have little knowledge. A blind date can broaden your horizons, and it can also help you to learn more about yourself.
When you study what you have learned from a blind date, then you will know whether or not you want to move from that first encounter to an intimate encounter. Maybe you will decide to continue to see that same person, and perhaps you will put yourself on the path to sexual encounters.
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