Now I know that some guys will not agree with me on this issue. They are the handsome, popular, talented and outgoing members of the male human species. I remember in high school that the stars of the basketball team were also the stars at the social activities of the school. They were showy and good-looking. They shined in sports and with the girls. The most attractive and popular of the girls congregated around those fellows.
Not so with me since I was more of a geek. I got good grades. I understood some English grammar concepts as well as the English teachers did, maybe even better than some of them. At night, I was alone at home, studying in my room, watching TV, and daydreaming of dating some of the popular girls at school.
I needed lessons on flirting. I wanted to have flirt success and find it easy to become close to the girls. I had to learn to use flirt techniques. At the library I secretly browsed the books on becoming popular and how to make friends. Being such a shy person made it hard to open up and even try to use flirt techniques.
I remember how good I felt whenever a girl whom I did not know would begin talking to me and even ask more personal questions such as if I planned to go to a particular dance or if I would be home on Saturday. I guess what such a girl was doing would be called flirting with me. It made me feel so good and important to someone.
Since it made me feel so good when a girl would flirt with me, I decided that I needed to learn about flirting, not just learn about it but even try to use flirt techniques. Success with girls depended on changing myself and my ways of dealing with girls. I felt sure that I could bring the same good feelings to girls that I enjoyed when they flirted with me. I just had to learn the basics of flirting.
Firstly, I had to examine myself. I discovered that my own self-image was not healthy. I saw myself as a nerd so I projected that image to other people whom I met. My feelings about myself needed to be updated. I had to see myself as a worthwhile person to know. Then, I would be able to act the part of a person with something to offer to someone else. I was sure that I would always be a bookworm and a good student in school. In time I learned that people can like studious people just as much as those who find studying to be a chore.
As my self-image modified, I found that I was happier. It was easier and more natural to smile more than I had previously done. I noticed that when I presented a sunnier outward appearance that other people became more pleasant toward me. Some of the more popular guys even spoke to me sometimes instead of seeing me as part of the furniture around school.
I was not really flirting yet, but my attitudes were more positive. Some of my physical actions became more playful as time went on. My smiles became much more common. I think my body language loosened up more. I felt less protective and more trusting of other people, both guys and girls. Negative thoughts began dropping off.
Soon I felt confident enough to begin offering compliments about the clothing or hair to girls that I thought I would enjoy being with. Soon, they warmed up to me a bit, even returning compliments, even touching my arm sometimes, even asking me more personal questions.
I think I was beginning to use flirt techniques, and I began enjoying life more. I began even asking for dates and beaming inside and out when the girl willingly went out with me. Flirting is not really so hard any more.