An open adoption is one in which the birth mother and sometimes the birth father will have certain access to the child; it will vary. A judge and other officials will determine the level of contact or access that the birth mother has; it is different in all cases. They will look at the reasons that the birth mother gave up her baby for adoption, or in the case of an older child they will look at the reasons that the child was taken away. They will consider the feelings of the birth mother and if she has proven to not be a danger to the child. They will also consider any other factors that would affect the arrangement. In some open adoptions, the birth mother will only have the right to receive letters and pictures from the adoptive parents. In other cases, the birth mother will have visitation rights.
In closed adoptions, the birth mother, father and any relatives, acquaintances and friends will not know who adopted the child and where that child is located. There will be no contact between the adoptive family and birth family. One may wonder what, if any, closed adoption negative there may be. To answer this question, we must look at not just the adults that are involved, as this will affect the adoptive child.
In the case of a birth parents being abusive, there seems to be no closed adoption negative. The child is most certainly better off not knowing the abusive, uncaring and possibly unstable parent with whom they began life with. The baby or child is allowed to begin anew with a caring and loving family where the child will be safe and protected.
The closed adoption negative may take place when the adoptive child becomes old enough that their instinct is telling them to seek out their past. It is not uncommon for children to wonder about their birth parent or parents. Even when, in most cases, the adoptive parents are the though of to be their “real” parents, when the adoptive parents are greatly loved and respected and when the adoptive parents have done everything in their power to raise the child to achieve greatness; the adoptive child may someday want to seek out their birth parent. This can be the case even when the child knows that the birth parents were neglectful, addicted to drugs or had other issues.
This closed adoption negative could come into play at this time, as the child may have many obstacles to overcome in order to find their birth parent. This may also be a closed adoption negative for the adoptive parents as well, as they may struggle to aid their child in finding his or her roots. With the help of the Internet and agencies that exist to aid in this issue, many have found methods to find birth parents who do wish to be found.