Added: 09/14/2005 |
Internet-Enabled Courtship For Pakistani SinglesIntense religious restrictions have made Pakistani dating scenario complex. As Islam forbids one-to-one intimate relationship between the individuals of opposite sex, Pakistani singles usually learn about their prospective spouses through the family connections. Furthermore, as only chaperoned meeting are allowed before marriage, therefore, the boy and the girl get limited chances to freely interact with one another, to get to know each other or spend time together alone. A large number of Pakistan singles are endorsing the colossal Internet to gain more independence and control on the courtship process. Parents have not been sidelined in this online dating endeavor. They still play the vital role in approving an engagement.
In recent times, there has been a sudden proliferation of dating and matchmaking sites, specifically catering to the needs of Pakistani singles, mainly because the stigma they once attracted is now almost negligible.These sites provide an opportunity to a wide spectrum of Pakistan singles to engage in an open and honest discussion to know more about each other's personality, thinking, and goals in life. This ultimately helps to evaluate the compatibility and suitability of the probable marriage partner. Like other dating services, the Muslim dating sites also ask their members to post photographs, profiles and a short list of qualities they would like their spouse to possess. Unlike their counterparts, Pakistani singles proceed at a snail's pace, often spending weeks and months exchanging comments online with their potential mate before deciding to meet. The couple meet in the presence of family members, friends or the leader of a mosque. If they feel that they would like to spend the rest of their life together, then more chaperoned meeting are arranged, which finally culminate in engagement.
Although, a revolutionary concept, online dating has its own set of pitfalls. It can be a tortuous path for many Pakistani singles because there are no means to adjudge the honesty of the other person, to know about his/her true appearance, character, education and past. Often, serious disabilities are concealed as long as possible; photographs are old or doctored; or the person may be simply playing with the emotions and is not serious at all. There are a lot of broken hearts, rejections and betrayals associated with online dating.
Some tips for success are:
1. Be honest, balanced and normal.
2. Move very slowly and carefully.
3. Communicate anonymously and give your personal contact information only when you are ready.
4. Ask for references and call these members for verification.
5. Do not look for one who is perfect, but look for one who is right.
With these useful tips in mind, Pakistani singles can bravely move forward on the Internet-enabled courtship pathway, which has bestowed some pulsating energy to the Pakistani dating environment. Though, marriages are made in heaven, but with the powerful tool of online dating services, the search for the right person becomes easy.
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