Added: 03/14/2007 |
If It Doesn't Work Get A DivorceToday is there any point to remaining married when you're unhappy? The answer to that question is a definite NO. Get a divorce and put your unhappiness behind you. Put your marriage down to experience and move on because if you get a divorce that's precisely what you are allowing yourself to do. The days when people remained married to the wrong partner until they death is over. Get a divorce today and begin life afresh because no one should be committed to a life of unhappiness unless they themselves want it to be that way, and who really wants that?
It used to be said that the only thing longer than death was marriage to the wrong person. Marriage is a lottery at best because although couples believe they know each other before they actually get wed, initial attractions can be temporary because the interaction changes after people decide to live with one another and discover that this scenario does not possess the same wonderfully intoxicating influence that brought them together and is quite a different proposition altogether. The thought to get a divorce will likely come to mind soon after a couple are wed as the dull routines of daily life kick-in.
There was a time when the idea of a divorce within a family was tantamount to a cardinal sin and legislation was put in place to ensure that this concept was believed because it was supported by government. Divorce aspects in Scotland where family ties are considered the strength of a unified community have tended to create a shadow for people who opt to get a divorce rather than remain tied together. Yet what is it that people who have come to realize that their relationship no longer works are they wrong to do if they get a divorce? When no children are involved the matter is fairly straightforward the individuals part company and begin their lives without the limitations imposed on them by each other. This will not automatically make either of them deliriously happy but neither will it mean that they feel trapped in a situation from which there is no escape.
Get a divorce may sound easy but it continues to be full of obstacles because the church and courts want people to remain together and that is how it should be to a point. However the commitment to remain together is a shared responsibility that can only continue if both parties agree otherwise it becomes a prison without the bars. It can also become a form of torture that no one should be expected to endure, especially if one of those in the partnership wants to harm the other which happens in far too many instances. Although there is a case to argue that the vow ‘for better or worse’ should be strictly adhered, it seems reasonable to suggest that a divine presence would have included the caption ‘but only if the two of you continue to agree’.
A Scottish divorce remains a thing to be avoided even in today’s liberated society because it continues to hang on to the stigma that a marriage failure is a reflection that one or both of the people involved were unable to keep to their solemn vows. However, the solemn vow is a man made concept in relation to marriage rather than a decree received from a higher plain. The Scottish divorce system like any other is meant to reflect the way in which its society has developed and although the Scots are enthusiastic family people in general they recognize the despair that can be placed on one partner by another simply because it is the way that things can turn out.
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