The best way to deal with growing anger is to simply stop the activity that is causing the problem and leave the room. This puts some distance between you and the object of your anger and gives you time to cool off before facing that person again. It also helps you to sit down and think about what has transpired and see if you can come up with a solution instead yelling and screaming or throwing a tantrum.
There are two kinds of anger. They are Passive and Aggressive. Passive is defined as self sacrificing, manipulating, emotional blackmail, and setting up other people for failure. Aggressive is defined as threatening someone, bullying, destroying other people's property, being selfish, and being explosive over small things.
Seeing a psychologist or one of those psychiatrists may be a solution to your problem. If you are being Passive or Aggressively angry, you need to find some help before it wrecks your relationships with your spouse, parents, and/or children. Getting help may help you discover the “real” problem and get you to see what you have been doing wrong. It may also help you to get along with others without pushing them away.
You must learn to express your angry feelings in an assertive way. Psychiatrists suggest telling people what you need, how to get your needs met, and don't hurt anyone else in the process. This may seem like manipulation but if it is done right, you can get your point across without any anger at all. It is actually protecting yourself. Constructive behavior instead of Destructive behavior will get you ahead every time and is accepted more readily.
People who constantly criticize and put other people down find themselves spending a lot of time alone. No one wants to be around them because of their abusive behavior. It is hard to spend time with people who just want to make fun of you or keep bringing up past mistakes and faults. Most people already know their faults and don't need somebody else to point it out for them. The “old broken record” that skips over the same chorus again and again is tiresome too. Let go of the past and start anew today. Start looking for the positive in your relationships and pointing that out instead.
Psychiatrists have found that some people just have a lower tolerance for frustration. It just bugs them until they can't stand it anymore and the smallest things will set them off. For example, a person may be pouring a soda and some goes over the edge onto the counter. Most of us would just get a paper towel and clean it up. The frustration of not being able to control the fluid in the glass is too much for the angry person. He has to rant and rave and throw a tantrum. The easiest thing to do would have just been to clean it up and go on. These people aren't able to do that. Anger Management classes can help you regain some control over your life if you are willing to face your problems.