The single German man is very much like the single American male: on the hunt for a mate, at times hoping against hope to attract the perfect German girl, and quite often somewhat lost between proper dating etiquette, cultural idiosyncrasies, and the fear of rejection. Single German girls find themselves facing the same predicament, yet at times it appears that they are in the driver's seat, meting out rejection after rejection for no apparent reason. Are girls, German or otherwise, truly this fickle?
The answer is a resounding "yes"! A single German understands that in order to find, attract, and captivate the heart of a German girl, he must eschew a couple of the cultural traits that we, as Americans, have cultivated and come to depend on for social niceties. As a matter of fact, drop any German into a happening American party, and you will find him or her standing at the sidelines, somewhat unsure of what to do, and perhaps even awkwardly attempting to fit in and participate in any of the conversations at hand.
Girls, German girls in particular, like to be complimented on their choice of clothing for example, but unlike their American counterparts, Germans do not engage in empty niceties. As a matter of fact, in America we are used to the phrase "how are you" which in no way denotes the speaker's genuine interest in the wellbeing of her or his counterpart. Germans do no engage in such small-talk. Blunt, almost to a fault, Germans will say what they think and mean what they say. Girls, German or American, should not expect a German admirer to comment favorably on their choice of dress unless he is genuinely pleased with it. At the same time, a German girl will be taken aback at a reflexively proffered empty compliment of an American admirer, and at times may make an unfounded judgment on the honesty of a person based on such a "white lie."
Once the initial meeting is successfully circumnavigated, the question of how to fill the conversation for the rest of the evening is at hand. In many cultures it has become a byword that in polite company the discussion of politics, money, and religion is to be avoided at all costs. Girls, German to the core, detest that which they perceive of as shallow and empty. Instead, it is not uncommon to observe first dates who are hotly debating politics, philosophy, art, literature, and a host of other hot topics. Their eyes will be glistening, their faces may be flushed from the passion which they hold for their individual points of view, forgotten will be those around them and the time, and their gestures will be animated; this is what makes for an enjoyable time! To a German, this is the perfect first date and will almost guarantee a series of follow-up dates.
In closing, girls, German and American, are looking for eligible mates, and will forgive a lot in order to find a suitable partner. Yet small-talk or idle chitchat will take many an unknowing admirer out of the race before it has even started! Become informed, be attuned, and you, too, may be able to claim an eligible German beauty for yourself!