The Flirt Factor
Why does flirting seem to come so easily for some, while it remains a lost art for others? If you're bold and outgoing, flirting probably comes as second nature for you. For the rest of us, the flirt factor represents one of the most difficult aspects of the dating game. If you're the reserved or bashful type, don't fret. Remind yourself that you can begin flirting with confidence just by using your own special talents. If you're not the social butterfly type, you're probably more of an observer and listener. Being a good observer and listener are crucial qualities to becoming someone people would like to flirt with.
Make Yourself Feel Flirty
One sure-fire way to act flirty is to feel flirty. If you're self-conscious about your appearance, chances are you will not be capable of flirting with confidence. Treat yourself to a new outfit. Get your hair cut and styled in a way that makes you feel attractive. Try to exercise at least three times a week, and get eight hours of sleep each night. Taking care of yourself will give you the boost you need to feel sexy and ready to flirt.
The Look of Love: Making Eye Contact
You spot a stranger across the room. You'd like to approach him, strike up a conversation, but you're not sure how. The easiest way to demonstrate interest is to make eye contact. Look at them directly in the eyes and try to hold their gaze for at least three slow seconds. If you're the type who looks away the moment your eyes meet, remind yourself that in order to make a connection you have to take a risk. Don't be afraid to flirt with power. Looking someone in the eyes, as simple as it sounds, is one of the most exhilarating flirting moves you can initiate. Who doesn't remember the first time they laid eyes on a future lover? Maybe you felt your heart beat a bit faster, maybe you're cheeks turned red. Learning to cast a slow, lingering gaze is one of the best ways to flirt with confidence.
A Smile Can Say So Much
A smile, like a come-hither gaze, is one of the most important non-verbal aspects of flirting with confidence. If you manage to make eye contact with someone you're attracted to, follow up with a small, nonchalant smile. The smile mustn't be toothy or a wide grin. Just a small, subtle smile that shows your target that you're interested. If you smile at someone, and they smile back, you can be certain that a connection has been made.
The Language of Love
Making good eye contact and exchanging smiles is one thing, but learning to chat someone up is quite another. The most important thing to remember when learning to flirt with confidence is that the conversation should always be kept light. Remember: flirting is all about having fun. Sense of humor is key for flirting with confidence. Don't be afraid to crack a corny joke. If the person you're interested in laughs, even out of politeness, you'll know that they're interesting. Also, be prepared to receive and dish out a little light teasing. Teasing is important when you're flirting with someone you are attracted, but don't know very well, because it creates sense of playfulness and fun.