As claimed above, flirting is just as much an art form as is painting, poetry, writing, and sculpture, however, what exactly is flirting and what are some of the more successful flirting techniques that both men and women can utilize? Flirting is a form of human interaction, usually expressing a sexual or romantic interest in the other person. Flirting can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one sided or it may be reciprocated. Flirting is often used as a means of expressing interest and gauging the other person’s interest in courtship, which can and often do continue into long term relationships. Alternatively, flirting may simply be a prelude to causal sex with no continuing relationship.
In other situations, flirting may be done simply for immediate and pure entertainment, with no intention of developing any type of further relationship. This kind of flirting faces disapproval and ridicule from other people, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as “cheating” if the person is already in a romantic relationship with somebody else. In addition, people who flirt may speak and act in such a manner that suggests a level of greater intimacy than is generally considered appropriate to the relationship (or to the amount of time the two people have known each other), without doing or saying anything that breeches any serious social norms. One way that both men and women accomplish this is to communicate a sense of playfulness or irony. Double entendres, with one meaning more formally appropriate and other more suggestive, may be used.
Flirting may consist of stylized gestures, language, body language, postures, and physiologic signs. Among these gestures, at least in Western society, are: eye contact, touching one’s hair, winking, sending notes, poems, and small gifts, smiling, and teasing. Again, these are just a number of flirting techniques that both men and women can use in order to pick someone up. However, studies are not clear as to whether women flirt more than men do?