A favorite saying in support groups is to bury the old marriage before it buries you. The underlying message here is to remember the good times of your old life but try and embrace your new life as well. You can't get anywhere living in the past; it is important to live in the here and now. Divorce support groups can help you find new ways to approach old problems that have left you in a rut as well as offer support both emotionally and legally when you are going through a divorce. If you are feeling like no one is on your side it may be time to find a divorce support group in your area.
Divorce support groups are not simply groups of people that get together to complain about their ex-spouses, though this happens out of necessity. The group's function is to help the members find solutions to their financial, legal and child problems that arise out of separation and divorce. It is difficult to find help, especially if you are a spouse that wasn't prepared for being served with divorce papers. Knowing where to find a divorce support group can be the difference between wallowing in self-pity and frustration and finding the help you need to protect yourself, your assets and your children.
Children are the subjects of many discussions at a divorce support group meeting. Many times children become pawns in a divorce and unfortunately this can end in tragedy if a wounded spouse feels that they have no control of the situation. A support group can help you find legal help for divorce and child custody. It is no longer the norm for judges to automatically award custody to the female parent. Males can also become the custodial guardian if they can provide for the child's needs in a satisfactory manner. You may also need financial help, especially if you weren't the breadwinner in the family. A support group can help direct you to the resources in your community that can help you over the rough spots, especially if you aren't receiving any form of support yet.
A divorce support group can help you set new goals for yourself that will help you through the first few months after a divorce. Setting goals will help you focus on the future and not on the past. Goals can include making new single friends, looking for a new job, finding a new home, making time for your children or even moving to a new area away from the ex-spouse. When children aren't involved it may be a great idea to start over in a new place where you can start fresh.
Going through a divorce doesn't mean the end of your life though it may feel like it at the time. Everyone grieves the end of a marriage whether it was a good one or not. It is difficult to begin new things and leave the old behind. A divorce support group will help you find your way to a new life. The new friends you will make can be the support you lost when your old married friends and ex-in-laws turned their backs on you. A support group will help you through a difficult time in your life and will help you move on to a better and more successful life than you had before; all you have to do is ask for help.