Dating Kenya has to be Africa's most exciting dating scene with possibilities for everyone's tastes and preferences. The Kenyan girls are rather social and the Kenyan community is renowned for being lively and outgoing. It is not too hard to find a companion for whatever level of commitment you desire. But if you are looking for a short term 'fling', Kenyan dating shall not disappoint. There is someone for everyone. But allow me to make dating Kenya more enjoyable and easier (if it can really get any easier!). Here are a few valuable pointers.
Getting your mate.
Foreigners already have an edge with the Kenyan singles! Kenya is in love with foreigners! You will be welcomed with arms wide open and more so if you are Caucasian. Looking for a fling can not get any easier! Simply step into the nearest discotheque and you are sure to have the ladies swarming all over you. Does wonders for the ego!
Personal ads can cost less than a dollar to place and there is guaranteed response. There are also a whole lot of personal ads for people searching for foreigners. Take this ad for an example:
20 year old Kenyan lady is
searching for a white man of
any age and from any country
who is fun loving, caring and
who loves to travel. Call me on..
And here is an example of a personal ad placed:
31-year-old financially stable
European gentleman seeks love
and romance from a beautiful, fun
to be with lady aged between 25
and 30. Call or text me on...
To have a successful personal ad, mention where you come from. It helps since you might get replies from the persons familiar with your country and language. Writing you are 'financially stable' is certain to get you good response.
The gay community is very guarded and it is almost an exclusive club. Dating Kenya, like most of Africa, is quite conservative on the issue of homosexuality. If you are searching for a gay relationship, the best thing is to contact someone in Kenya who is in the know of the local gay scene. The gay society is normally situated in the plush suburbs of Nairobi and the folks there are quite liberal. Otherwise, you have to be discrete when dating in public.
On the date.
Kenyan dating is a simple affair without much in formalities. But you will be rated highly if you are the gentleman. No need to be overly extravagant, buying flowers and the like. Simple acts such as opening doors and pulling chairs will be highly appreciated. They simply love the man who makes them feel like a lady.
Be yourself fully! Don't be shy about yourself. In fact the queerer you are, the more the Kenyan singles will love you! Try and learn a few phrases in the national language, Swahili. A good one is, 'Wewe ni mrembo sana' which means 'you are very pretty.' Speak it as it is written and don't feel coy about your accent. Your date will love it and it is a sure winner.
On the date, the guy is always expected to pay. Going Dutch after asking for a date is disapproved and could mark the end of your dating Kenya experience. I am not implying that Kenyan singles are cheapskates of sorts out for your money. They will invite you out on dates occasionally, such as cooking a staple meal or take you out to some exotic spot. And if they invited you for a date, then you can safely split the bill.
After the date.
Make your intentions clear during the date so you can both be clear where the night is taking you. It is not automatic that your date will be going back to your hotel with you. You have got to be obviously subtle with your intentions. If you want fling for the night, then flirt shamelessly. Your date will get the hint and will either respond or stop your advances. No worries. She'll be subtle about it too; no slaps... unless you truly deserve it! It may be all easy, but remember they are not the hookers. Treat them with the respect they deserve.
Not so hard now, is it? Just following these easy tips and you shall well be on your way to enjoying the joys of dating Kenya. Just be careful and protect yourself. It is that kind of world we are living in.