Added: 11/29/2007 |
Can An Asperger Syndrome Halt A Budding Friendship?The writer of the following article wonders if there are any people with Aperger Syndrome living in Iran. The writer feels that such patients would be at a real disadvantage in Iranian society. That society depends heavily on the appearance of great generosity. One Iranian once told the writer, “An Iranian is always generous.” That same man would be slow to befriend an Asperger patient.
A patient with Asperger Syndrome typically demonstrates abnormal, nonverbal communication skills. He or she often fails to perform the sort of “body talk” that can help a person to acquire friends. He or she might move, speak or gesture in a manner to which others could easily take offense.
A healthy person should be able to analyze his or her emotions, and to ascertain how such emotions might affect any sort of “body talk.” Yet an Asperger patient can not complete such a self-analysis. That is why he or she repeatedly falls prey to the demonstration of abnormal communication skills.
A patient with Asperger Syndrome seldom shows a readiness to share his or her enjoyment with any situation. He or she does not make known his or her interests on a particular subject. He or she might even fail to comment on the achievements of a potential friend. Such a failure can lead to the loss of one additional friend.
An Asperger patient might fail to respond to even the strongest emotional feelings. Such a failure greatly reduces the chances that that Asperger patient might find a new friend. A good friend must be able to “open up” to others. A good friend must be able to share his or her deepest emotions.
A good friend should also be generous with complements. A friend should not only praise achievements made by others, but should show an appreciation for any act of kindness demonstrated by another person. A patient with Asperger Syndrome often fails to come forth with the sort of comments expected from a true friend.
Someone with Asperger Syndrome might be known to obsess over little details. He or she might, for example, feel very strongly about the strict maintenance of a certain schedule. Such behavior can get in the way of a developing friendship.
A good friend understands that any friend, even the best friend, is only human. He or she might disappoint you from time to time. A good friend does not judge a friend according to an unrealistic standard. It seems rather unrealistic to feel that any person could pay attention to every little detail during the performance of every daily chore.
Sometimes a person can develop a strategy for being a good friend. He or she learns to change the behaviors that might somehow “turn-off” a potential friend. It can be extremely difficult for someone with Asperger Syndrome to successfully carry-out such an approach. His or her behaviors seem “stamped” onto his or her character.
Of course, if an Asperger patient is really lucky, he or she will meet someone who is familiar with Asperger Syndrome. Then that patient can be better understood by the potential friend. He or she might eventually enjoy the pleasures of having a truly close and caring friend.
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