Over the last twenty five years, new light has been shed our birth order. We will take a look at a few birth order facts and how it has an impact on ourselves, our families, as well as our lives, including our relationships. Our first step is to understand what is birth order? Birth order is the order in which you entered your family. This defines who you are. It is further defined by your parents and where they fell in their birth order. It is also defined by the number of siblings you have in your family.

Now let’s delve into some birth order facts. Many experts agree that our birth order is one of many factors that have a role in our personality development. We are closest to our families and how we grow and connect with our families is also a factor in our development. The birth order connection to this is as a new sibling or child is born it affects the birth order in which how will the parents interact with the new child as well as the older child(ren) in the existing family.

Further birth order facts revolve around the characteristics of each child and where they fall along the birth order line. Let’s start by looking at the first born. The first born child tends to like to be in control and know what is going on; they do not like surprises. The first born also is very organized and are achievers. They also tend to be very dependable. Why does the first born tend to have such characteristics? They are the only child in the family and the parents tend to have high expectations for the child. They are made examples of to the younger children, so they strive to be a “perfect” child.

Next we will look at the birth order facts surrounding the second child or those children born in the middle. These are the children that tend to try to search for their own identity. They tend to be independent and due to their independence are often a well adjust adult and are very balanced in life. They are also good negotiators. The second born or middle child often fends for themselves as their older sibling wants nothing to do with a “little kid” and often are by themselves. As they grow older they depend on their friends as they are a big part of their lives.

Finally, we look at the last born, or the baby of the family. This child is often seen as the one who gets all of the love and attention. They tend to be charming, funny, and affection. However, there are also those who will be rebellious, temperamental, impatient, and spoiled. The baby of the family never seems to feel like they are being taken seriously as they are the youngest in the family. The older siblings tend to shy away from the youngest sibling leaving them to feel “ousted” by their siblings.

The birth order facts listed above is not a predictor or how your children will turn out to be later on in life. It is best to do further research on what other experts believe. You may want to visit your local library and check out some birth order books and conduct your own bit of research on birth order. These books look deeper into the birth order and can possible predict who your children might marry later on in life – the oldest sibling tends to be with the oldest sibling of another family. It is not scientific facts, but it is quite interesting.