All children need discipline to insure that they will behave and act accordingly. The task is the parents to decide which acts of the children should require a form of discipline. The knowledge and understanding of these things is one of the greatest qualities of authoritative parents who use rules and guidelines to ensure the proper education and behavior of their children.
It is in the best interest of the child, that their be firm, somewhat strict rules placed upon them. Examples of such rules would include setting a reasonable bedtime, instructing chores, and making sure that homework is done. These are all simple guidelines that should be met by all children, regardless of age. Of course, certain guidelines should be given for each age group.
Another example of parenting for authoritative parents would be to set a curfew for older children. They should be expected back home at a reasonable time. The thing to remember when striving to accomplish authoritative parenting is to enforce these rules and not just set them.
Anyone can set rules and say them, but without the enforcing of these rules, it is not likely that they will be followed. One way for authoritative parents to enforce such rules would be to discipline the child once the rules are broken. This will show to the child that their will be consequences for the breaking of these rules.
There are many ways for authoritative parents to discipline a child. Many believe when they hear the term discipline, it is referring to whipping or harming a child. This, however, is untrue in regards to authoritative parenting. Disciplining can have many forms, none of which, have to involve bodily or mental harm to the child.
A perfect example of discipline for authoritative parenting is punishment. When a child misbehaves, rebels, or breaks the rules, it is a very common and appropriate thing to punish them. A punishment can be anything ranging from no dessert at dinner or being grounded for two weeks. It can also mean for the child to go to their room, or for t heir favorite toy to be taken away.
The punishment should match the child’s age. If the child is as young as four years old, a proper punishment would entitle sitting in time out for five or ten minutes. If a child is somewhat older, such as nine, an appropriate punishment may be to go in their room for thirty minutes. As the child gets older, the harshness of the punishment should increase. For example, a teenager, who breaks a rule or does something that is seriously wrong or prohibited, a proper punishment for such an act should include revoking phone privileges, or not being allowed to have friends over.
Understanding which punishment should appropriately fit your child is key in successful authoritative parenting. Authoritative parents are not mean or harsh. In fact, they are only demonstrating their love for their child with each punishment or enforced rule.