Flirting, isn't it fun? Every one has tried it at one time or another, it might have been at school, at work or at the hottest new club in town, but it has been done. Are you a good flirt or you one who would like to know how to flirt that little bit better? Below are some how to's to flirt successfully but first of all we will have a quick look at what flirting is.
Flirting is classed in definition as a playful and fun way to arouse sexual interest in another. But really when you look at it, it is a natural behavioral pattern in everyone to show someone you like them in more than one way. Everyone who looks for a date flirts to see how that person reacts to them and see if they will flirt back with them, some people do it just for fun without any sexual thought coming into the equation. Some even do it to make another person feel good about themselves. Flirting can be both seductive, weird and humorous.
Many people say that flirting is a lot like seducing someone because it's an art and it takes technique but as we know everyone can do it whether they are veterans or whether they are just starting out. All it takes is a little bit of know how and the right moves so without any further ado let's get on with learning the basics on how to flirt.
Flirting is all about how you present yourself and your body language as the body speaks louder than words. So wherever you are, when you flirt, make sure that you take notice of your body language. Crossed arms or adverted eyes aren't going to get you anywhere because you are sending out the signal that you are not interested. Use your body language to your advantage, there are plenty of signals you can send out in a flirting manner from smiling, eye contact, the way you sit, the way you move and how you walk and so on.
Another important thing you should know in the basics of how to flirt is how you speak and what you say, it is the most important thing after body language and is usually the next step in the whole flirtation process. When you talk play with it a little, make the sound speak for you, keep it light and make sure it's not the 'all about me' attitude, even through in a few giggles and smiles and if you're in the a loud area instead of trying to shout over the crowd get close to them and speak in their ear. And remember, even at this stage keep the body language up, touch their hand or their shoulder and make sure you keep lots of eye contact. Also when you are flirting take notice of their body language and how they talk as it will tell you if they are interested or not.
Well they are all the main things that are important when learning the basics on how to flirt. Here are five tips for flirting to make it a success.
Flirt moderately - don't make it too hard or make it too easy as they will lose interest, find a medium area that's fun for the both of you.
Don't make it all about you - when talking to your flirt interest don't make it all about you, no one likes a show off or the 'all about me attitude' it's the biggest mistake most people make when flirting, if the person wants to know about you, they will ask.
Be interested - when talking with the person you're flirting with be interested in them, listen to what they say and ask questions about their life and not just the right now tonight questions. They will like the way that you are genuinely interested in them and will in turn be interested in knowing what you are about.
Don't linger - sure flirting can be fun but too much of it can get boring and most parties will want to move on and do something else for a while. A great place to end the flirting for a while is swapping numbers - it's a good indicator that you are both interested in each other.
Last but not least, don't use corny or sexually orientated pickup lines like 'Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?' or 'Pardon me, is there a mirror in your pocket? Because I keep seeing myself in your pants.' Because you really aren't going to get any where with them, in fact most people hate them.
There are plenty of resources where you can get more information on how to flirt and there are hundreds of websites that have tips for flirting, but really the best way you are going to better your skills is get out there and do some practice.