The idea of a wedding ceremony and tying the knot, where the bride and groom exchange vows and slip a ring on each other's finger is steeped in traditions and cultures older than probably any one can remember. Long before organized religion wielded it's power and intimated almost as many individuals as it converted, the Wican and Pagan beliefs conducted what was known as the handfasting ceremony or handfasting ritual.
This isn't the place to debate the merits of the Wican or Pagan way of life. They both cast their faith in the good Mother Earth. And both "religions" if we want to use the term, recognize a priestess or priest as an official who can make any ceremony legal and binding. When it comes to marriage, the handfasting ceremony or handfasting ritual is what brings the soon-to-be-husband and wife together.
Try explaining all this to an 11 year old and try doing it in a way that they understand. Instead of meeting in a church, in the handfasting ritual; the couple meet in a circle that is divided into four quarters. With each quarter representing one of the elements of earth, fire, water and air. An altar is placed at the north end of the circle and the couple stands before the altar and before the priestess who proceeds over the ceremony.
What is interesting in this method of tying the knot is that there are no wedding vows per se. Rather the man and woman make promises to each other to lead a good life and take care of each other. The priestess or priest then binds the couple's right hands signifying a lasting union than never ends. And thus the term tying the knot was born! The ceremony concludes with the couple jumping over a sword or broomstick - to represent the end of one life and the beginning of a new one.
As I was relating all this to my kid, it dawned on me that I kind of like this way of tying the knot. Kind of a low-cal marriage ceremony. No pomp and circumstance. No rings and expensive dresses and all the other material things that tend to overshadow the main reason the man and woman decided to come together in the first place. I'm not sure if my wife shares those sentiments and I'm not about to change her mind anyway. Now, not every state recognizes the handfasting ceremony as an official one. In fact many handfasting ceremonies are good for only one year. Meaning the "promises" the couple makes during the ceremony will be re-evaluated after one year and a day. At the end of this trial period the couple can decide to remain together or go their separate ways. Tying the knot then could be considered as an untying ceremony as well. At least after 12 months and twenty four hours!
There are variations to this theme. In Hawaii for example, the couple has their hands bound with a garland of flowers. In the Orient it's with a sash or ribbon, so it's easy to see that where ever the idea of tying the knot began, it transcends an entire world and probably most of the cultures within it.
So my daughter knows a new word and understands what her father means when he says he refers to tying the knot. This has spurred me on to explain other slang terms in the American language - for example, a pain in the butt, a knot on the head, and an eye for an eye just to name a few. And it wouldn't surprise me if those phrases have variations that are known the world over as well.