The truth is that one of the biggest obstacles to dating for an African American single is simply meeting people. Especially if you have been out of the dating loop for a while, it can feel overwhelming to tackle the singles scene.
Almost any African American single can come up with a dozen good reasons why they're not in a relationship: anything can become an impediment to finding the right long partner, even financial situation, familial obligations, or a high-powered career.
For a busy black American, it can be very difficult to find the time to meet new people. Taking chances and breaking out of a normal lifestyle routine can be very daunting. However, that special someone could be anywhere, not just in a crowded bar or in an intimidating, expensive dance club with a velvet rope out front. It can make more sense and be more fun to bypass traditional routes of finding dates and try something more innovative. Here are some strategies that any black american can employ to make meeting new people an exciting part of daily life, whether they are an African American single looking for love or just one of the many African Americans looking to make more friends.
The more interesting you are, the more people will enjoy being with you for a lifetime or an afternoon, so take steps to cultivate yourself. Whenever you do meet your mate, that person will enjoy being around even more if you take a chance now by learning something about the world, awaken a dormant talent, or gain confidence from trying something completely new. Signing up for a class can be a great way to meet people for romance and/or for friendship. Plus, even if Mr., Mrs. or Ms. right doesn't walk through the door, you might enjoy the class anyway!
Dance classes are one of the most social forms of education, which is probably why they are a tried and true method for African Americans or anyone else to connect with new people. If you are nervous about attending a dance class alone, ask a friend to come with you for support. If you'd rather go with someone you don't know already, the New York Personals occasionally runs columns for "activity partners," wherein people place ads looking for someone to accompany them to events like dance classes and concerts without strings attached. This can be a great way to start your journey into the New York single scene.
African Americans are likely to make substantive connections with people they meet who share their interests, leading to more successful partnering than can usually be found in the African American singles scene. So, even if a structured class isn't your style, don't resort to bar hopping. Instead, consider taking up a new hobby and joining a club. Consider the desired gender of your romantic partner, and pick a hobby which will enable you to meet the most members of that gender. If you are the only woman in a soccer club full of guys, the odds are in your favor that some of them will be eligible, so go for it and see how the other half lives. If you are a heterosexual man looking for the right woman, try taking up a traditionally "feminine" hobby like knitting or quilting; the new comrades you meet in a sewing circle or weekly club may admire your willingness to take a risk and try out a new area of recreation, and those friendships could easily develop into something more. African Americans who simply follow their interests diligently are bound to meet at least some new eligible dates or friends.
Try taking advantage of cultural events and institutions like plays, concerts, museums, dance performances and the like. Many African Americans attend these kinds of functions, or visit these kinds of places, but don't make the most of the opportunities to connect with other art lovers or history buffs.
Incorporating the search for a romantic partner into your daily life doesn't mean that you need to view the whole of the city as a singles bar to prowl in day and night; however, African American singles can definitely increase the possibility of meeting someone to date just by keeping their eyes and ears open all day every day.