Hi Guys!
Do you think the natural differences – color of skin and nationality – have a bearing on marital happiness and/or discomfort? Drop your ideas and thoughts!
Blog ⁄ Natural differences - skin colour - vrs marriage
on 12 Feb, 08
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Everything depends on the charachter of a person or better to say the charachters of two persons - happiness and sorrow in mariagge. And the charachter forms under the influence of different factors, and nationality and color of skin play not the last role in this.
Thanks for your comment. Personally, I think character is not determined by one's skin color or nationality. If it were, we would have a group of people with the same color or nationality having the same character. But what do we see, we see a 'variety' in terms of character of people from the same country and of the same color. Perhaps where nationality and color of skin play a major role in marital harmony/disharmony is adjustment to married life - the cultural shocks and other related issues...to be continued.
well, i agree with your statemant about charachter. But I dont think that the nationality and colour of skin influence on a marital life. If two persons love each other, they will find mutual understanding.
Well said, SexyAngel! In my trip to Indonesia, Thailand and Singapore a couple of months ago, I learnt something that provoked some considerable doubts as to how important is nationality and color of skin to marital life. I was in company with nationals of these countries - I had a host in each of the countries - and people seemed to be so possessed of an exaggerated ideas of this nationality and color stuff to ask of many questions, which is a reason for this question I posted. But, personally, I think it's time people forgo the consideration of the natural differences for the advancement of a real-love experience - the hope of every serious-minded young person! Isn't the picture nice - the beauty of diversity. Anyway, we were enjoying an Indonesia, very spicy, palatable, fried rice - 'nacy goren' as called by the Indonesians...!! Cheers!
Nice discussion and I also agree with you. Is it your foto? You are travelling a lot, as I see. I wish I could be so free as a bird!!!!
Yeah that's my photo! Well...I don't get to travel as much as I would have loved to, but then I try to travel whenever I get the chance - in terms of time and resource! Being so free as a bird? Hmmm! Good point but it's impossible! Oh I don't want to make an affirmative statement! Maybe I should say 'semi-possible' instead! Cheers!
no don't think it matters what ur skin colour is or ur religon as long as u both r happy and love each other for who u are if it is a problem then u arn't right for each other thats my opinion
Thanks, Evonnemellia! It's really perceptible from all the comments that, the important factor is love and happiness with each other. And of course you cannot be happy with someone you do not love. So the bond of fellowship that exist between true lovers transcends the consideration of skin colour. So I say again: It's time we forgo the consideration of skin colour and other natural differences for the advancement of real-love! Cheers!
To me... Age, (as long as legal) colour, religon or anything should not matter one bit as long as the two people that will be spending the rest of their lives together are happy... no one else has to live with the happy couple so end of day as long as they are in love and happy nothing else should matter......Just my personal opinion.. as i married a guy 16 yrs older than myself and alot of people had opinions against us, but we were and are still in love after 4 happy years of being married so tough to all those with little faith... trust in the heart.... it knows what is best x
Thanks, happydevongirl, for that beautiful comment! It's all an attitude of mind and heart, and not about the natural differences! Marriage is intended for man's (both male and female) happiness, and happiness is from within, which has no bearing on skin colour, age, or nationality. Cheers!
if i worried about what people thought about skin colour and nationality i woulnt have my little girl..... i think if to people are happy together then everyone else should butt out and let them live their lives the way they want to.
Thanks kerri, for your comment! This is meant to send a message across to encourage those that have fallen in love with people of natural differences - skin colour, nationality, etc - to obey only their hearts in the pattern it is following, and to bring to light that, marriage is all about happiness, and the natural differences have no bearing on marital happiness. Cheers!
Tbh, If I was spoken to in a racist manner, I would just ignore it and move on. If it was continuous, I would just tell them to piss off or to fuck off and I would walk away. It's best to walk away. Everyone should have happiness and ethnicity, skin colour, religion, roots... all of it should not be judged.
I dont think it matters about skin colour in marraige as long as both people are happy then that should be enough after all happiness makes the world go round (well i think it does)
I don't think that the colour of peoples skin makes any difference in marriage. I have known a few couples in my time where the colour of their skin was not the same and they had really wonderful marriages. It shouldn't matter about race, religion or anything else in a relationship as long as there is love there. If not then why are they still together?
Thanks, Scotsgirl & Chrissy, for your comments! I am glad that, everyone of you believes the natural differences - skin colour, nationality, etc - has no bearing whatsoever on marital happiness. As you have all said, marriage is all about happiness, and happiness cannot be bought with a skin colour - black, white, brown, etc. Cheers!
colour or natio make's no diffrence if u love each other and compliment each other ...
Thanks, Emzeeak & Sugar! I appreciate the time you took off to comment, and your comments are very welcoming and straight to the point! Happiness cannot be bought with a skin colour - black, white, brown, name the rest! Cheers!
erm ok ben first of all excellent question although easy answer colour and nationality mean nothing when it comes to relationships basically it doesnt matter wahts on the outside its whats on the inside that counts put it this way could you build a realtionship based on appearance or colour of skin or even nationality alone no way you need personality and character and it is the person inside that people truly love take for instance your mates they are not friends with you because you are attractive or because of the colour they are mates with you because you make them laugh and you are always there for them etc well it is the same in my opinion when it comes to relationships because you have to be mates with the person you are in a realtionship with for the relationship to work. i have had relationdhips in the past where lads have come up to me saying things like waht you doin with him for when you could be with me and i simply say that it is because i know the person for who they truly are and i would rather be with them anyday then someone so shallow minded as to judge someone for their appeareance hope this answers your question hunni x x x x x x
Hi Faye! Thanks for your brilliant, open-hearted comment! Of course the inner man is more important than what we see outside! Relationship is all about happiness and genuine pleasure. Someone who respects, admires, loves, and appreciates you should be the measuring stick against which a ‘precious part’ in terms of relationship can be judged. These things cannot be bought with colour of skin or nationality! Cheers!